Monday, December 31, 2012

Happy Holidays!!!!!!!!



The Size Fabulous family would like to wish you all a Happy New Year. May 2013 be better than 2012 and we will help you make it happen. Remember that you are beautiful and worth it. Bring in the new year with best intentions and a positive mindset.

Try not to bring the negative thoughts you have about yourself and your body into the new year. Go back and get all the tips I have given and apply them. I want you to be a confident and fabulous woman in the new year and I know you do too. LOVE YOURSELF AND YOUR BODY!!!!!!!!

Peace & Love

Friday, December 28, 2012

Your Year in Review

So its only a few more days until the new year and I know you are getting those new year resolutions ready. I want you to take this time to look back at this whole year that has past. I want you to think about everything. All the highs and lows and what got you to this point in your life. What could you have done differently and what is your plan to have a better year next year?

Sit down, get a piece of paper and a pen and get started. Start by writing down all the things that went on during the year and I do mean EVERYTHING. Some things we go through we might not think it will affect us and it does. We must re-evaluate everything in our life in order to have a happier one. Write down all the good things that has happen and all the bad ones.

Once you have written down EVERYTHING, take a moment to go over your list and put a star next to things your feel should not have happened or you felt it could have went better. Once you do that make another list of ways you can handle situations better and things you can do to prevent certain things from happening. Then make your goals for next year. Incorporate everything into your new goals and put this list and your goals up somewhere you will see it everyday so it is a constant reminder for you.

Don't be too critical on yourself just focus on becoming a happier and better you. Hope the new year is better than the last.

Peace & Love

Thursday, December 27, 2012

Look of The Week


It's time to get that look together for New Years Eve. Got any ideas yet?????? Try to think outside the box and be bold. Don't be afraid to get that killer dress you have your eye on. Your size has no limits just remember to dress for your shape and get the correct size. Cheers to the new year.

Wine Colored Dress with Flocked Mesh from Asos Curves at $30.78
Platform Pumps from GoJane at $24.95
Clutch from Rainbow at $9.99

Wednesday, December 26, 2012

Your Weight is Not a Handicap

I wish those who are over weight would stop saying they can't do this or do that. You can do anything you want to do if your put your mind to it. Stop saying it's to hard and go for it.

Our mind is what keeps up from accomplishing things we would like to. You are the only one that can make a change in your life and nothing will ever change for the better if you don't get going and make things happen. The biggest problem is that most are looking for instant gratification and get discouraged when it doesn't happen. Many things takes time especially losing weight.

If losing weight is your plan (like many others)it will not happen over night. No matter what way you decide to do it, it is a process that takes a lot of education, understanding, accepting and executing. When you hear people say it is a lifestyle change they are not lying. The way you lose weight is the way you will keep it off.

If your waiting for the day you will wake up and stop hating your body, know that it is a process. The biggest thing is mental. You will be whatever you think you are. Until you understand and accept all aspects of your body you will think negatively. Yes you can love your body and have days when you don't, but if you never look in the mirror and say you love your body and mean it then its not true. You have to work on your inner self and mentally transform your thoughts. You have to make peace with your thoughts.

Life is not about instant gratification. Educating, understanding, accepting and then executing is what will bring you the best satisfaction. You can then appreciate who you are and where you want to be. Nothing will change without your effort. Time to turn over a new leaf. Don't wait until next year do it now.

Peace & Love

Wednesday, December 19, 2012

Why I Cried For Burger King

I didn't actually cry for Burger King lol but I got emotional. I got emotional for two reasons. At the end it gave a new light to my binge and unhealthy eating habits and how strong I can be.

The first reason I wanted to cry was because I REALLY wanted some Burger King. I had to make a stop at the grocery store before I go home and its one right across the street. It was a combination of already being hungry and the aromas that floated my way. I'm so used to when I don't feel like making something to eat fast food is my next choice. Even when I've tried to loose weight other times my excuse was one meal wont hurt. Then one meal turns into two and two turns into three. Its a never ending cycle that's leads me to fall off my healthy eating. I knew that if I got Burger King last night I would always get fast food when I really craved it.

The second reason I wanted to cry was because I couldn't believe I got this emotional over fast food. Was it really that serious???? Am I more addicted to foods than I think??? I just might be. I though I was going crazy. How could you cry over not eating a food you want. Then it hit me that this is a test. It showed me my strength to not give in to temptation. I have been working hard at getting my healthy lifestyle back and I don't want to lose it. My health is more important than a burger. I DID NOT get anything from Burger King. Instead I went home and made my own burger. It was so much more rewarding knowing I didn't cave in and I stood strong.

I know I am not alone in situations like this. Many people who has been eating so poorly over a long period of time has times when all we want is one little taste of the foods we always loved. Is it worth it???? I think not. Giving in would have made me feel horrible. I would have felt regret, guilt, loss motivation and think bad about myself and my body. I feel a lot better and I know if was was able to make the right choice then I can continue to make the right choice.

I'm am here for support or questions, don't be shy.

Peace & Love

Tuesday, December 18, 2012

Why Wait Until New Years

What's your reason to wait until New Years to make a change in your life???? If want to change bad enough why not do it now???

From what I have seen many people who make new year resolutions usually only stick to them for a few months. Every year becomes a cycle of making change in the beginning but sliding back after a few months. Although everyone is not the same, when people commit to a lifestyle change at a later point in the year they are more likely to stick with it.

So whats holding you back from losing weight or taking steps to embrace the skin you're in??? I fall into the resolution trap from time to time and I find that your mind has to be in the right place before a true change will happen.

For those going through the cycle of not sticking to their resolutions needs to understand that a mental change is also needed. You must get your mind in the right place before you will be able to make and maintain change. I say it all the time but we must learn, understand and love our bodies before we make change. It will make it that much easier for you.

You do not have to wait until the next year to turn a new leaf. Everyday is an opportunity to make a change.

Peace & Love

Friday, December 14, 2012

Friday From Me to You

I hear it a lot that there is a fine line between being curvy/thick and fat. This comment doesn't make me upset but I know it hits a cord with others. Is the statement true????


I agree on the terms that even the smallest women can be curvy and the size difference of a size 10 curvy women verses a size 24 curvy women is very different. The same goes for being considered thick. Our levels of thickness can be drastically different as well. So where can we draw the line at???

I disagree at the points that people's opinions of what they consider curvy, thick and fat varies. You can definitely be plus size and have curves. I have a small waist, wide hips and big butt. Most women in family is this way. I am  a size 18/20 and I have a stomach and I am far from skinny but being that I have a stomach does that mean I cant be considered curvy???

This is my dilemma, if there is a fine line between being curvy/thick and fat where is it?? And who will determine where that line is??? Everything is just an opinion at the end of the day. What is wrong with women who want to call themselves curvy or thick. If you don't agree that's fine but how does that hurt you. Your values and opinions on labeling the size of people is something you shouldn't force on others. Society is constantly changes and what we all need to be focused on is health at any size.

HEALTHY IS THE NEW SKINNY, CURVY, THICK, FAT, FULL FIGURED, PLUS SIZE, FIT AND ETC.

Peace & Love

Thursday, December 13, 2012

Look of The Week


Three things that people are loving right now is peplums, leather, and heelless shoes. This look of the week includes all three. The weather is on a roller coaster so we don't know how cold or warm it will be so this look can adapt to any day of the season.

Long Sleeve Peplum Top from Asos Curves at $26.39
Faux Leather Leggins from FashiontoFigure at $22.00
Heelless Booties from Rainbow Shops at $34.99

Tuesday, December 11, 2012

Bartender Labels Customers As “Fat Girls” On Receipt

 
Last Thursday, three plus size women visited Chilly D’s which is part of the Cameo Casino Restaurant. Everything went without incident until Jeff, the bartender typed in “Fat Girls” to keep track of the ladies bill. As if it would be to hard to label the table with something simple like table of three or the color of a shirt or something other than a rude remark.
 
Jeff forgot to change the identifier so when given the receipt it was still on there. When Christine Duran asked for an explanation, he had a smirk on his face as if there was something funny and he was trying not to laugh.
 
Upon voicing their complaint to the manager they were initially offered a 25% discount off the total bill which was $25.50. The initial discount was followed by a 50% discount. They declined both offers. The entire bill was eventually discounted as Jimmy Siemers, co-owner of Chilly D’s worked to clean up the mess. Although he didn’t work the evening of the incident, he said he is trying to clean up the mess.
 
He has more than a small mess to clean up. I hope that Jeff is reprimanded for his actions. It was completely unprofessional, rude and ignorant. That is not the only way he could have identified that table. He probably thought he was being funny, but at whose expense. Everyone gets talked about but when it comes to a business that is another form of discrimination. Hopefully Chilly D's and Jeff will learn from this experience.

Monday, December 10, 2012

Bringing Sexy Back


Every women has insecurities about their bodies. There will always be something you hate about it or don't want another person to see. When it's time to be sexy or intimate your insecurities can lead to a disastrous night. I want to help you get out your comfort zone to bring out that inner sexy. The more you work on it the easier and more comfortable it will become.

  1. Get familiar and explore your body. I say it all the time but looking at yourself naked often will help you accept it and love it. Everyday you should spend time in front of your mirror.
  2. Gradually buy sexy clothes like lingerie or sexy pajamas. Try things with a silk or satin material. Feeling those materials against your skin will help bring out your inner sexy.
  3. Maintain your feet and hands. You don't have to pay a lot of money for pedicures and manicures. Doing simple things like making sure there moisturized and nails are painted can keep you in a good mood.
  4. Another thing that's gets my sexy going is music. I am heavily into all kinds of music and certain songs just puts me in a zone. Try listening to some R&B slow songs. Even some throwback old school music can put you in the right mood.
  5. The most important thing is to get comfortable by yourself. We will all be a little uncomfortable from time to time when we are with a partner but being comfortable in your own skin will help.
It wont happen over night but don't let your issues with your body get in the way of intimacy. Every woman deserves to feel sexy. Work on these tips and you will be that much closer to bringing out your hotness.

Peace & Love

Friday, December 7, 2012

Friday's From Me to You

The saying is true. Everything is easier said than done and I understand that but if you really want to make change then it will be done. What everyone needs to understand is that all things takes time. Loving your body, losing weight, getting married (lol) and etc. will take time to happen. People are too busy looking for that quick fix that they are not willing to put in the work to get there. It is and will always be easier to quit rather than to work hard for something.

Are you willing to do what you have to do to get to a happier you????? Are you ready to make sacrifices??? If your not ready then your road to loving your body will be harder for you. Its all about how bad you want it. The same goes for losing weight. If your not willing to put that fast food down don't expect to get a six pack. If your too busy being selfish don't expect to get that ring.

The steps it takes to loving yourself and your body can be very simple but it all about how bad you want it. For some who have other serious conditions like mental illness and clinical depression, the road to a happier self can take longer and requires more work.

It doesn't take much to love yourself. Remember the work you put in will be worth it if you get your happy ending. You should take everyday as an opportunity to take steps to a healthier happier you.

I'm always here for support and questions.

Peace & Love

Thursday, December 6, 2012

He Didn't Want You Because of How You Acted, Not Because of Your Weight.


I hear a lot of women complain about not finding love or even getting a date because of their weight. Some times that can be true, but what women need to understand is that our actions may be the reason a man was turned off and don't want to date us.

The most important part of being in the dating world is to act the way you want the man to treat you. If you think dressing half naked or throwing yourself at men will get you your prince charming you are wrong. Men like a bit of a chase and I do mean a small chase not playing games. Your confidence should be the first thing a man can see in you. Even saying hello and your name should be said with confidence. That man should know what kind of women he is speaking to in the first FIVE minutes.

First thing is to dress the part. There is nothing wrong with being sexy just make sure you look respectful. Make sure your clothes fit and your are dressed for the occasion. Next is where you meet men. There is nothing wrong with meeting men at the club or online but be aware of what his intentions maybe and if he's crazy (lol). Next is the conversation you have with men. Sex should not be the topic of conversation on your first couple of dates. You should be getting to each other. Are you guilty of any of these?????

Last but not least is to not ignore the signs. If you find that you are never getting that second date, you may need to do some reevaluating within yourself. If you present yourself in a respectable woman manner you shouldn't have such a hard time dating. I know we are all looking for love and can't seem to find it, but it's one thing to not have chemistry with someone verses you making them uncomfortable. Next time you have a date, I want you evaluate how you acted when you get home.
Do you think you was doing to much???? And don't forget to ask your friend and others who are close to you about your dating skills. It is always good to get others opinions from a different point of view.

Peace & Love

Wednesday, December 5, 2012

Look of the Week


It's that time of year again, holiday party time. My job Christmas party is this Friday and I am so excited. One because it's a new job and two because I've never worked anywhere that had Christmas parties. It took me a few days of online and store browsing to find the right dress. The go to dress is always a LBD (little black dress), but I wanted color. My dress is red and black. The outfit for this look of the week is for upcoming parties. I should give you an idea to play off of. Here's to a fabulous look for your party.

Black Tulip Dress from Asos Curves at $46.61
Leather Bow Clutch from Go Jane at $36.30
Velvet Platform Pumps from Go Jane at $27.20

Tuesday, December 4, 2012

Advertisement Break


Americans spend there whole day seeing some type of advertisement with a model on it and what do some start to do???? Compare themselves to those models. We all know what comparing ourselves leads to and that's finding things we don't like about our bodies. So I want you to try and take an advertisement break.

Taking an advertisement break can help you in more ways than one. Not only can it save you money and time but the most important thing it will do is keep you mind clear to think positive about your body. I know it can be hard for you but it is so worth it in the end. I only want you to do this for ONE week to see if it will help you.

So what you will have to do is refrain from looking at any type of magazine that is not plus size. Do not watch commercials during your TV time. Do not go to any websites that are not plus size. Look at yourself in the mirror a few times throughout the day.

This is great for everyone not just those with low self esteem. Giving your mind the freedom to form its own opinion of things and focusing solely on your body can raise your confidence and self esteem regardless of how confident you are. So lets get started. After you read this choose a day to start and go for seven days. If you want to go longer excellent. I will love to hear how it went for you.

Everyday should be a day to do something to get you to a happier you :)

Peace & Love

Friday, November 30, 2012

Look of The Week

 
 
I love me some colors (lol). As plus size women we need to stay away from dark and frumpy clothing. Always try to make a statement when you walk out the door. As a single mother I know it can be hard to find affordable nice fashions. I want to give you looks you can pull off that are affordable. Some of the stores may not be in your area but they all are available online.
 
Colorblocked Sheer Blouse from Dots at $19.80
Red Stretch Jeans from Rainbow at $19.99
Mustard Fringe Wedge Booties from Rainbow at $29.99

Wednesday, November 28, 2012

How Low Will You Go???....For Attention


I came across a video showing footage of a plus size strip club in New York City. I have never heard of one so I was very intrigued to see the video. If you have never been to a female strip club there is a few thing that I assumed would be in place, boy was I wrong.

I actually became disgusted by the level of disrespect the ladies had for their bodies. They allowed men to do any and everything to them. Now correct me if I'm wrong but in most strip club men have rules they have to follow, but this place seemed to have none. Was it because it was a plus size strip club?????? One major thing that really got under my skin was big women dancing with food. If its one thing that grinds my gears its fat people doing things with food for entertainment. It is soooooo degrading to me.

I have no issues with stripping but this place should be shut down. I am all for the big girl can do anything movement but at what cost. Must we degrade and disrespect our bodies to get the same level of attention as our slimmer counterparts?? Can we not have a legitimate business that follow the same rules and guidelines as others. Things like this will set us back and it will not help with plus size empowerment.

Ladies men will give you the same attention if you carry yourself with confidence and respect. Your size should not be a reason to have low standards. If you want to be a stripper by all means that is fine but have some respect about your craft. Don't allow any level of disrespect to yourself or your body. You are worthy of nothing but the best and you are the only one that can make it happen.

Know your worth ladies!!!!!!

Peace & Love

Monday, November 26, 2012

The Cyber Monday 2012 Plus Size Fashion Roundup

Ahh… Cyber Monday! Just when we thought the Holidays Sales have ended, Cyber Monday comes in and tempts us sooo nicely! Cyber Monday, the first Monday after black Friday, when everyone flocks online after bracing (or not) the stores, where retailers and designers cater to our never ending quest for great fashion and lifestyle deals and steals… Your Cyber Monday roundup is here!

Cyber-Monday for Plus Size Fashion

Whether you are reading this from work, home, or out in the streets, I have rounded up a very detailed list of some of the best Cyber Monday deals for the plus size woman. Clothing, Beauty, Shoes, Handbags, and fun tech deals (just because), enjoy the deep discounts and make sure you double back to the Black Friday deals for plus size fashion, as some of those promotions are STILL in effect!

Your Cyber Monday Plus Size Fashion Roundup:

Beauty:

    • Bliss World: Enjoy up to 50% savings on some of the best in skincare, footwear, shapewear and many more! Plus, save 30% on Bliss+Remede bundles and save 20% on Bliss, Remede and Elemis products!
    • Body Shop: Cyber Monday: 50% off + free shipping on orders over $30. Valid 11/26 & 11/27
    • Kiehl’s: Receive $20 off orders of $75 or more, plus complimentary shipping! Enter code JOYFUL at checkout. Offer valid 11.19-12.31.12
    • Lancôme: Friends and Family: Enjoy 20% off any order.* Enter promo code HEARTS at checkout. Offer valid 11.25-11.30.12. Offer not valid on e-gift cards, gift sets & beauty box.
    • Nordstrom Beauty: Cyber Monday at NORDSTROM. Save up to 60% today only on gift sets from Stilla, Bare Essentials, Trish McEvoy, Bobbi Brown and more. Plus, get free shipping, no minimums.
    • Sephora: To celebrate Cyber Monday, pick up their Mystery Sample Bag goodies and get Free Shipping with any $25 purchase.
    • Tarte Cosmetics: Save 25% OFF*, plus receive a deluxe sample with any order and free shipping with any $40 purchase. Use code CYBER at checkout.
    • Ulta: Free holiday shipping on orders over $25 with coupon code: HOLIDAY2012.

    Women’s Plus Size Clothing:

    Accessories and Shoes:

    • Aldo Shoes: Black Friday & Cyber Monday Deals! Get extra 30% OFF all Sale! Starts November 22nd (Valid Nov 22nd 12AM EST to Nov 27th 11:59PM)
    • BaubleBar: Cyber Monday gifting suite is back! Get a gift for every $40 you spend. The gift suite will not go live until the promotion begins!
    • Betsy Johnson: Celebrate Cyber Monday with Betsey Johnson! Save 30% off plus Free Shipping! Use code BJCYBER30. Valid 11.26.12 only! Some exclusions apply, see site for details!
    • CHROMATICgallerie: Sunday and Monday only (11.25-11.26) shop online with CHROMATICgallerie, use code “MeGift” and treat yourself to $15-off all heels (reg. $88) as well as a pair of custom-matched knee-highs, free with every order.
    • Designer Shoes: Cyber Monday only, 20% off with code CYBERSHOES20 on all purchases.
    • DNA Footwear: Take advantage of this great Cyber Monday Sale – 30% off Sitewide (excluding Sorel and Ugg prodcuts) with code THANKS30 while it lasts
    • Heels.com: 30% Off with coupon code CYBER30 at Heels.com!
    • Jessica Simpson: 40% off and free shipping on entire site! Use code HOLIDAY. Offer valid 11/22-11/26.
    • Karmaloop: Cyber Monday deals valid 11/25-11/27 with code CBRKAM: $12 Off + Free Shipping on Orders over $75; $30 OFF + Free Shipping on Orders Over $150; $60 Off + Free Shipping on Orders over $250; $125 Off + Free Shipping on orders over $500 and Free Shipping!
    • Max and Chloe: CYBER MONDAY get 25% OFF SITEWIDE. Free Clutch with any purchase over $350+$10 gift certificate credit for every $50 spent! Promo code: CYBER12. Valid 11/23-11/26
    • Nine West: Nine West Cyber Monday Only! - Buy 1 Get 20% Off or Buy 2 & Receive 30% Off ENTIRE Purchase! Ends 11/26.
    • Vince Camuto: 30% Off with Code: HOLIDAY. Valid 11.21-11.27

    Other Fun Places:

    WHEW! This is a heck of a list THAT WILL ONLY GROW, as the days pass… please bookmark, favorite, share on FB, and Twitter with your fellow Curvy Fashionistas! This list will update!

    Have Fun!

     
    

    Holiday Blues


    This post may be too late for thanksgiving but valuable for Christmas, as I saw somethings around this past Thanksgiving.

    Do you get the holiday blues? Holiday blues is when you get in a down or depressed state around Thanksgiving and Christmas. So many factors can play into having down moments at those times. The two main issues are the food and family who may not have seen you in a while.

    We work so hard to eat healthy and it is a struggle for everyone at holiday time. Nothing served at my family's dinner table is cooked healthy. I don't beat myself up about it either. If you have the same type of situation it is OK to eat the food. Don't starve yourself on the holidays because there are no healthy options. I just mad sure I had small portions of whatever I really wanted. I also mad sure I didn't go back for seconds. I can admit I tried all the desserts LOL, but I didn't take any of the food home. I knew if I took food home I would over eat. Just understand that it is OK to indulge in holiday foods as long as you don't go overboard.

    Family is another trigger to get you down in the dumps. Although I don't have any judgemental people in my family I know many of you do. There's always that relative that has no filter and will say whatever they want regardless if it hurts your feelings or not. You have to treat them like you do others who make comments. You can either ignore their negative comments or you can speak up about how they made you feel. Don't let comments get you down. You are a beautiful woman (or teen) and you deserve nothing but the best. Use those comments as motivation for your confidence.

    Holiday time can be tough for some but remember who you are and your worth. Don't allow food or negative comments get in the way of your joy.

    Peace & Love

    Friday, November 23, 2012

    Amber Riley Breaks Down Talking about Body Image & Weight



    Body image and weight is a struggle for many women, but when you’re an actress governed by Hollywood’s rigid beauty standards, being outside the norm can not only limit your success, but can do a number on your self-esteem.

    In MTV’s new show, This Is How I Made It, the network takes a look at how some of the entertainment industry’s brightest talents achieved their dreams. In an upcoming episode, former Glee standout Amber Riley discusses how she became a household name.

    In one poignant scene, Riley discusses how being a young, plus size black actress in Hollywood nearly shattered her self-image.

    She tearfully recounts:
    Hollywood is a very hard place to be in. It really is. Being the person I am, you know, the size I am, being a woman, being a black woman, there’s not a lot of roles for us. After I did St. Sass…I was being offered the girl who sits in the corner and eats all day, the girl who wanted to commit suicide because she was fat. It was never anything that I felt had a good ending. I never wanted to play a character that hated herself. I wanted people to know that those aren’t the only kinds of roles for women like me. Normal girls.

    Going to the auditions and having the casting directors say, ‘I think you need to lose a little weight,’ I couldn’t understand why people couldn’t accept me for who I was and the rejection started wearing on my self-esteem. That’s when my mom and I decided to stop.

    …I’m not gonna conform and hurt myself and do something crazy to be a size two. My parents always instilled knowing that you’re beautiful and knowing that you’re fearfully and wonderfully made and no one can tell you who you are. You know who you are.

    I’m a healthy person. I have great friends around me that are positive and I think that’s the key to life is making your own path. Set your own rules because there is no set rule, there is no set look, there is no set anything. You make your own rules in your life. You make your own decisions.
    Riley, who recently finished a stint in the Broadway musical Cotton Club Parade, serves as a role model to many young girls who may be struggling to accept themselves. Her advice, “to make your own rules” serves as a wonderful reminder to all women no matter what they look like or field they pursue.

    Courtesy of www.frugivoremag.com

    Wednesday, November 21, 2012

    Help Me Make a Video!!!!!!!!!!!!



    So this holiday weekend (since I have the time) I want to make a video answering any questions you have related to all things plus size. It can benefit everyone and I think I would be fun. So I am asking all of you to email me with any questions or topics you would like me to touch on. Don't be shy I will not use anyone's name.

    Work On Your Inner Self

    So I am in a group for plus size women on facebook. The group is based over seas so I definitely understand the cultural differences I may encounter. Yesterday someone put up a post from a woman she read and wanted our opinions on it. The post was about how she (the woman) was over weight most her life and never had any happy moments and blamed it on her weight. She said her friends never wanted to be around her and men only used her. It saddened me at the beginning of her story but sadness turned into anger.

    She then starts to categorize ALL big (plus size) women and said that we will all have miserable lives until we lose weight. She kept saying that the life she lived is what we all will live until we change ourselves. She closed by saying that she lost 100 pounds and feels better about herself but she still doesn't date and its because she wants to turn the table on guys in certain ways to hurt them in return. There was not one person that agreed with her story.

    What made me angry is that people love to categorize others that they do not know. Just because you have major insecurities because of your weight doesn't mean we have those same insecurities. Even after she lost the weight she still hasn't found a "good" man so it goes to show that no matter how much you change your appearance if you are not confident and have good self esteem you will not have a better life.

    And for her to tell others to do what she did and boast about her "new" life was just a away to try and make herself feel better in my opinion. I left a comment and one thing I shared was that if she was so happy that 1. she wouldn't categorize and talk down to other plus size women and 2. she would be dating or starting to enter into the dating the world. Being that those two points stick out like sore thumbs I know she's not truly happy.

    Ladies we much work on our inner selves before we make major changes or the changes will mean nothing in our new life.

    Peace & Love

    Tuesday, November 20, 2012

    Wise Words: Maybe It’s You

    What do you first do when you learn to swim? You make mistakes, do you not? And what happens? You make other mistakes, and when you have made all the mistakes you possibly can without drowning – and some of them many times over – what do you find? That you can swim? Well – life is just the same as learning to swim! Do not be afraid of making mistakes, for there is no other way of learning how to live!” – Alfred Adler
    Not too long ago I had a “maybe it’s me” moment. While I was on Facebook, I saw that an old flame had recently tied the knot. And although I’m in no hurry to jump the broom (or still have any sort of feelings for him), I did feel a pang of “Why isn’t that me?” shoot through my stomach.

    After flipping through his too-cute wedding pictures, I started to feel a bit down and wondered when I’d find The One with whom I’d spend my life. In that moment I mentally scanned the pages of my relationship scrapbook and began to think about all of the decisions I’ve made in the past. Some, I wasn’t so proud of. I stayed longer in bad situations than I should have, and others, I never even gave the guy a proper chance.

    As thought back I had to admit that not all of the guys were bad. Sometimes, it really was me. At times I was mean, and others I didn’t allow myself to be open and vulnerable. And a few times I made questionable decisions or allowed myself to be treated in a way that I shouldn’t have. While the guys weren’t always innocent bystanders, I couldn’t overlook my part in the demise of our relationships either.

    Interestingly enough, taking stock and realizing where I messed up didn’t get me down; it made me feel empowered. Instead of going into Negative Nancy territory and swearing off men, I recognize the mistakes I made and feel better equipped to sidestep them in the future.

    When we’re honest with ourselves about our role in the not-so-nice moments of our lives, we reclaim a little bit of lost power.

    Instead of blaming others, or dumping ALL the blame on ourselves and believing the worst about our self, being honest about how we contributed to our mess-ups will not only help us heal, but it’ll hopefully provide some much-needed wisdom about what not to do in the future.

    Time to take a little stock of our lives, Clutchettes.

    Courtesy of www.clutchmagonline.com

    Recycle Your Old Clothing and Get Paid for it Online

    Hand-me-downs have gotten a makeover in recent years as thrifting and vintage shopping, whether from the local thrift store, or your parents closet, has unveiled secret treasures of fly threads and undiscovered style. Hipsters, professionals and fashion connoisseurs a like know the value of scoring a great deal on second life clothing and now it seems as the whole world is catching on.

    Not only is recycled style light on the wallet, but it’s also easier on the planet, making this trend a win-win for us all. Living a thrifty life in this century comes with even greater perks. The dusty thrift store isn’t the only place shoppers can browse in search of new looks and home décor. While eBay still has its value as the heart of discarding old items to the highest bidder, new online e-boutiques have stepped up their game, offering both a high-style experience and discounted clothing.

    Growing sites like Thread Flip, Like Twice, and SnobSwap create online exchanges where people can sell, swap, shop and flip for clothing, accessories, and shoes with the click of a button. Best of all, there’s no hassle to turn your regular spring cleaning routine into a gold mine. Most of these sites allow you to send your items to them directly (they pay shipping), they’ll measure it, photograph it for their website and then ship it directly to customers. No more endless trips to the donation center or waiting in line to get a receipt for your old household goods.

    As a country we throw away over 20 billion pounds of clothing away annually. Of that 20 billion, households throwing away an average of 175 pounds of clothing each year, finding a new home for gently used items keeps textiles out of landfills and opportunities for people to thin out their closets, score a few bucks without the need for a yard sell (who wants to haggle anyway?) and avoid creating new waste.

    Courtesy of www.frugivoremag.com
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    Places to find great plus size items I have been hearing that do this is www.esty.com and www.abbeypost.com which will be launching in December.

    Monday, November 19, 2012

    Monday Wellness Check

    Happy Monday Ladies,

    I have decided to do the Monday Wellness Check every other week from now on. It gives us both an oppritunity to see our progress over a longer period of time. Well...... what have you been up to on your healthy journey????? I would love for you to share your stories, good or bad. I have been doing really good.

    My eating has been getting so much better. I am eating healthy just about all the time. I say just about because I allow a couple things. Every Friday is donut day at my job so I allow myself to have ONE and with the holidays coming up I will allow myself to eat a few things I stay away from regularly. Im the only on in my family eating healthy so I know there wont be anything healthy on that table.

    I have had times when I want something really bad and I find things to take my mind off of it. I have also been looking for and using healthy recipies I find to keep my food from becoming boring. Another thing I found is certain grocery stores has more of a variety of healthy foods and I will be going there more frequently.

    Exercise is coming along. I am trying to get in at least 30 minutes a day. I am really busy with my full time job, Size Fabulous and my three daughters that is doesnt always happen but I am exercising and that is what matters. I am more focused to make a change for the better for my health. Again I am not trying to lose weight to be skinny. I want to be HEALTHY and there is a difference.

    I hope your still on your journey and staying strong. Dont forget hard work pays off.

    Peace & Love

    PLUS Model Magazine Reporting Potential Plus Size Modeling Scams

    Dear PMM Readers and Fans… someone is at it again, trying to pose as PLUS Model Magazine and scam aspiring and working plus models… and as always, I will not stand for it!

    *Once we are able to release specific information I will
     
    SCAM 1
    Yesterday, we were contacted by someone asking us why we billed her credit card for $24.95 for a subscription to our magazine when she had not subscribed… I advised her that PMM has always been a free online magazine, and has been so since starting in 2006!
     
    She then went on to explain that this ‘magazine’ was suppose to teach her how to be a plus model… I informed her that after she contacted her credit card company to reverse the charge from this bogus magazine (a PMM poser), to please come back online and join me as we have a lot of terrific FREE information to share on just how to get started as a plus model:
     
    SCAM 2
    Imitation is supposed to be the highest form of flattery, but stealing copy-written images is downright nasty… especially when one of those images is of me! Yep, that’s right… imagine my surprise when I was sent a link to a site with a similar name to PMM, only to see MY face on their homepage, along with 4 other copy-written, highly recognizable images from past issues of PMM! …Bad, bad karma coming their way
     
    Here’s the lowdown on these underhanded, no-good, plagiaristic, scammers (and I have cleaned up my language for the internet as requested by one of our team members)… These ‘similar name sites’ steal images that people associate with PMM to lure plus models into buying subscriptions, job leads, products and more… as you trust the PMM brand, you might find yourself buying what they have to offer because of it… if you buy or don’t buy, you may still find yourself LIKING them on FB, thinking you are supporting PMM. In this instance, I know someone personally who likes this spammer because they think it is PMM! Yes, I will be calling her in a few minutes to fill her in.
     
     
    CAN WE MAKE A PACT?
    You know I am all about empowerment and support of the plus size woman… I ‘have your back’ everyday… in everything I do… and in every decision I make… and I would like to think that you have my back too… so, let’s make an agreement…
     
    Starting today, let’s make better choices online… let’s use our LIKE buttons for good, not evil…let’s make sure that we are associating our online profile with real people, companies and legitimate organizations that mean something to us… that we are happy to recommend and support. If you’re game, I am… want to virtual pinky-swear?
     
    If you’re ‘in’ for the pact and having each others back, let me know!
     
    Hugs…
    Maddy
     
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    Be carefull ladies!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Friday, November 16, 2012

    Is the Key to Losing Weight Not Trying To Lose Weight? A New Study Gives Some Clues



    It seems counterintuitive, but according to a new study by Stanford University researchers, the key to long-lasting weight loss is may be learn the keys to maintenance before trying to lose weight.

    In the study titled “Promoting Healthy Weight with ‘Stability Skills First,” Michaela Kiernan and her colleagues found that people are more able to attain lasting weight loss if they are first taught to maintain it.

    Fit Sugar gives more details about the study:
    In a new study by Stanford scientists, more than 260 overweight to obese women were split into two groups: One immediately began a 20-week weight-loss plan that involved eating more fruits and veggies, being more active, keeping daily food journals, and attending weekly support meetings. Once this part of the program was completed, they spent eight more weeks focusing on weight maintenance tactics.
    The other group was asked to refrain from losing any weight the first eight weeks while they learned those maintenance lessons. Only after those two months did these women began the identical 20-week weight-loss program.
    In the end, both groups lost about the same amount of weight—an average 17 pounds, roughly 9 percent of their starting weights. But there was a big difference a year later: Those who lost weight first regained seven pounds, more than twice as much as the women who started by mastering the maintenance tricks.
    These findings may be just what people need to finally lose the weight and keep it off. While most concentrate on losing the weight, no matter what, only to find the pounds creep back on, these participants were able to maintain their weight loss because they learned the tools necessary to live a healthy life, not just get thinner.

    Courtesy of www.frugivoremag.com

    Friday's From Me To You



    Are you single and ready to mingle? Are you afraid to put yourself out there? We all have many insecurities that can keep us from jumping out there and finding love.

    You must not make assumptions as to why men wont like you. There is someone out there for everyone. Now every man you want may not want you but it has to do with their preference. Just like you prefer a certain type of man. Men prefer a certain type of female. Some men just don't like women over a certain size or frame and that's OK. Don't beat yourself up over it.

    There isn't one person I know that enjoys being rejected. Get over your fear of dating, we all deserve to be loved by a significant other. I have heard many women say they avoid certain men or act a certain way because they feel the men wont like them how they are. Well I'm here to tell you that you are sabotaging yourself.

    The most important thing when dating is to just BE YOURSELF. You want this person to love you for you not for who they want you to be. Learn what works for you and embrace it. Be that amazing woman you are meant to be and love will be knocking at your door in no time.

    Peace & Love

    Thursday, November 15, 2012

    Pepsi Fat Blocking Soda....SMH

    So Pepsi just release a new soda in the Japan market called "Pepsi Special". The soda contains a fiber that allegedly helps reduce fat levels in the body. Although fiber is something we should have in a healthy diet, adding it to sodas (which are unhealthy) is not a good thing.

    Pushing a product like this doesn't really have any benefits. People will drink more of this soda thus negating the benefit of the fiber. Any way people can still have their favorite things while dieting and not make themselves feel guilty, they will consume. It just give people another excuse to drink soda.

    Products like this makes me upset. It is hard enough to eat healthy and maintain it without companies pushing weight loss products in our face everyday. I really hope people understand that no matter what soda companies do the soda it is still soda. It still has similar ingredients from before.

    Its up to you to decide what you will eat and drink. I just wanted to share my opinion.

    What is your take on this new soda?

    Wednesday, November 14, 2012

    Look of The Week

    I'm all about all purpose looks. Buying items that you can dress up and dress down is not only a cool idea but it can save you money. This look can also be paired with a cool colored blazer. You don't have to dress down and frumpy in the cold weather. You can still keep things chic without being too cold.

    Tuxedo Jeggins from Ashley Stewart at $27.99
    Dotted Contrast Shirt from Forever21 at $22.80
    Low Cut Pumps from Go Jane at $23.80

    Adele on Weight Loss: I Would Only Lose Weight If It Affects My Sex Life


    Adele, the uber-popular British soul singer, is completely comfortable with two things: her voice and her body.

    Despite being ‘plus size,’ the singer has often rebuffed comments and calls for her to drop some weight and fit into the single-digit dress size of her industry peers. Why? She’s comfortable with herself.

    In a biography released this week, the 24-year-old new mom fired back at those who criticize her weight, saying she’d only shed a few pounds if it really affected her life.
    She said: “I read a comment on YouTube that I thought would upset me — ‘Test pilot for pies’ — but I’ve always been fine with it. I would only lose weight if it affected my health or sex life, which it doesn’t.”
    Although very vocal about her weight, Adele’s stance is not unique. Despite the media’s insistence that being overweight is the worst thing a person can be, a self-acceptance movement called Healthy At Every Size is growing.

    Years of diet fatigue and an industry more concerned with keeping folks on the treadmill of yo-yo dieting rather than actually getting healthy has taken it’s toll. Many are embracing Adele’s philosophy and are jumping off the hamster wheel.
    Instead of concentrating on the numbers on the scale, Dr. Linda Bacon says that people should focus on a few things: accepting that every body is different; eating in a manner that honors internal cues of hunger, satiety, and appetite; and finding the joy in moving your body.
    By approaching health in a holistic manner instead of viewing it as something that must be beat into submission, perhaps more people will be as happy with their bodies—no matter the size — as Adele is with hers.

    Courtesy of www.frugivoremag.com

    Tuesday, November 13, 2012

    Seeing Body Diversity Makes Us More Comfortable With Diverse Bodies



    You know how all day, every day we're inundated with images of women with similar body types (thin) and told, "THIS IS PERFECT BE THIS SIZE OR DIE OF A FAT FAT ATTACK." Or, you know, just be thin so clothes will fit right, other people will find you suitable for fucking, and you won't die alone, your rotting carcass eventually discovered under a pile of pizza boxes, diet pills, and Lipitor? The same reason many women spend thousands of dollars to lose those "last ten pounds," might just be because the only type of women we ever see in the media are thin, thinner, and thinnest (but not too thin! because then she's probably anorexic and then, "eewww!") In conclusion, it makes everyone miserable and nobody wins.

    Well, a new study published in PLoS ONE, demonstrates that when women are shown pictures of other women with a range of body sizes, the study participants quickly start to get more comfortable with the varying sizes. Of course, the implication is, that if we we're shown a more diverse arrays of body sizes on TV, movies, billboards, advertising, etc., we'd probably just be a lot more okay with the fact that bodies come in all shapes and sizes, maybe even seeing Tyra in a fat suit (made of a ten thousand jelly beans stuffed into a full-body sweat suit made for a T. Rex) would be less alarming.

    When [Ed.: mostly/exclusively heterosexual] women in England were shown photos of plus-sized women in neutral gray leotards, they became more tolerant.
    When the women were shown photos of anorexic women, attitudes became more positive there, too. "Showing them thin bodies makes them like thin bodies, more, and showing them fat bodies makes them like fat bodies more," says Lynda Boothroyd, a psychology researcher at Durham University in England, who led the study. She calls it a "visual diet," changing what your eyes eat.

    The photos initially freaked me out because I was all, "HEADLESS FATTIES OH HELL NO!" but then I realized that by not showing faces and by cladding them all in ugly-ass neutral leotards, the researchers wanted the women to only notice the bodies.

    In fact, when shown women of all sizes dressed nicely, study participants responded more positively to the women, no matter their weight. Which, duh, those leotards are the ugliest. Of course, all study participants still "preferred thinner-than-average bodies, but their preferences did move up or down depending on what they saw."

    In conclusion, burn your television and eat your eye balls because I have no other solution! Well, unless Instagram counts as big media now and if so, let's all Instagram our butts and normalize butts, worldwide.

    Hmm... this seems like a lousy solution?

    Courtesy of www.jezebel.com

    How Much Should You Rely On Your Significant Other For Confidence?

    In the December issue of Cosmopolitan U.K., Kim tells editors about how her boyfriend, Kanye West, improves her self-esteem. “He’s great at boosting my confidence. He gives me compliments in every way possible,” she said.

    Who wouldn't want a mate who thinks you're amazing and tells you so? And, yet, Kardashian's remark reminded Samantha Escobar of The Gloss of her own tendency to rely too much on her partner to keep her ego afloat.

    She wrote, "For the last however many years I’ve been in the dating world, a significant portion of my self-confidence has come from whomever I’ve been dating. Whether it was needing my partner to consistently tell me I’m pretty–otherwise I would feel ugly–or relying on another boyfriend to call me smart because I felt inadequate in school or with writing, I got most of my 'confidence boosts' from other people."

    It's a concern HuffPost Women blogger Autumn Whitefield-Madrano has voiced in the past. She, too, knows how it feels to look to a significant other for validation of your appearance. But for her, this has led to concerted efforts to "look the part" -- to present herself as her significant other's ideal partner.

    In her post "Relationships And Appearance: How I Stopped Trying To Look The Part," she wrote about an ex-boyfriend, "I wanted to be seen as a part of a team -- his team -- and by styling myself to look the part, I was hoping to become a naturalized citizen of his psychic nation. If I looked like I belonged with him, perhaps I might actually belong with him."
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    I think that you can look to your significant other for helping with your self esteem and confidence but you MUST NOT rely on it. At the end of the day you have to be happy and confident within your self and by yourself. Liking complements are one thing but if you only feel how someone else thinks you should you will never be truly happy.

    What do you think? How much do you depend on your partner to bolster your self-confidence, about your appearance or other aspects of who you are?

    Courtesy of www.huffingtonpost.com

    Monday, November 12, 2012

    Weight Loss Doesn't Help Girls' Self-Esteem

    After overweight teenage girls win the battle with the scale, an even longer struggle may begin with the mirror, says a new study. Researchers at Purdue University found that weight loss does not guarantee that girls are going to feel better about themselves and their bodies, most likely because of the negative stereotypes and messages about obesity they encounter.

    The U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention estimates that 17 percent of American children ages 2 to 19 are currently obese. Since 1980, obesity rates among children and teenagers have almost tripled.

    "We found that obese black and white teenage girls who transitioned out of obesity continued to see themselves as fat, despite changes in their relative body mass," said Sarah A. Mustillo, a PhD and lead researcher on the study in arelease. "Further, obese white girls had lower self-esteemthan their normal-weight peers and their self-esteem remained flat even as they transitioned out of obesity."

    For the study, researchers reviewed data from the National Heart, Lung and Blood Institute Growth and Health Study, which followed the weight of more than 2,000 black and white girls for 10 years, starting at ages 9 or 10. Based on their body trends, the girls were classified into three groups: normal weight, transitioned out of obesity, and chronically obese.

    While self-esteem for the black girls transitioning from the obese to the normal-weight range did rebound, both races still had poor body image after weight loss. Researchers noted that the self-esteem for black girls was lower overall to begin with, and that mental health assistance during weight loss might be the key to rebounding every dieter’s body image.

    “Understanding and addressing body image, identity and self-esteem issues could ultimately help keep the weight off,” Mustillo said in the same release. “Why keep dieting and exercising if you are still going to see yourself as fat?”

    Helping teen girls boost their self-esteem can be tricky, but there are some simple strategies parents can try. If you think your teen needs a body image boost, try these strategies from the Mayo Clinic.
    • Discuss self-image. Mayo Clinic experts say it’s important to talk to teen girls about body image and emphasize that different women have different body types. Ask her what she likes about herself, and explain what you like about her, too. When you’re discussing body image with your teen, use positive language, and avoid talking about “fat” or “thin.”
    • Counter negative media messages. Because teens are constantly inundated with messages about body image from advertisements, the Internet, their peers, and more, encourage her to ask questions about what she sees. Point out examples of women who are famous for their achievements, not their appearances, to set a positive example, experts say.
    • Praise achievements. Highlight your daughter’s special skills, efforts, and achievements, and emphasize that exercising her talents, whatever they may be, is more important than her appearance.
    • Encourage healthy habits. Set a positive example for eating and exercising, and stress that you eat well and workout for your health, not just to look a certain way. Offer healthy meals and snacks at home, and involve your children in the process of selecting healthy foods.
    Courtesy of www.everydayhealth.com

    5 Factors That Foster a Positive Body Image

    Women feel the absolute worst about their bodies while they are trying on swimsuits, recent research published in the journal Sex Roles revealed — causing most women to react with a collective "duh!"
    Women are also more likely to feel ashamed of their bodies when they feel they are being watched by others, as opposed to self-critiquing behind a dressing room door. In the survey, 70 percent of the women were normal weight, yet considered themselves to be slightly overweight. To help calm dressing-room fears, researchers suggested that store owners might want to avoid displaying stick-thin mannequins and posters.

    However, a new study, also published in Sex Roles, found that a woman's body image — in or out of the dressing room — is determined by much more than just mannequins. Five distinct factors influence how positive a woman's body image is likely to be, researchers at the University of Arizona found after surveying 301 first-year college women. And, they say, knowing these factors could help prevent eating disorders.

    Here are the factors researchers found to positively influence self-image:
    1. A supportive family.
    2. Little pressure to conform to a body "ideal."
    3. A rejection of the concept of the "thin and beautiful" ideal woman.
    4. Positive feelings about their body's abilities, as opposed to just shape.
    5. The strategies necessary to healthfully cope with stress.
    These concepts could be used to help other women, researchers say, by creating eating-disorder prevention programs that help women become comfortable with multiple ideas of female beauty. Young women should be encouraged to exercise for health and wellness, instead of just weight loss, and ideas of holistic well-being and balance should be promoted, lead researcher Sharon Snapp, PhD, wrote in a release.

    "It is particularly important for women to develop a sense of self-worth that is not solely based on appearance, and to build resilience to pressures they may receive from family, friends and the media," Snapp said.

    Courtesy of www.everydayhealth.com

    Friday, November 9, 2012

    Friday's From Me To You

    Happy Friday Ladies :)

    I was reading an article about plus size fashion blogger changing the plus size fashion industry and it got me thinking. The more people who stand up for change can eventually pave the way for a new and improved industry.

    We have to come together to make change. Don't be afraid to be yourself, say how you feel and demand what you want. The fashion industry isn't going to change until we demand what we want. Don't dress in frumpy unflattering clothing because you cant find things you like. There are many ways you can make clothes work for you.

    Also start looking into buying clothes from small plus size boutiques and independent sellers. I have came across many small boutiques and plus size fashionistas that sell plus size clothing. You have to also request for your size if they don't carry it. Contact the owner and see if they can get your size. Usually most owners will try to help you the best way they can.

    When you create your own looks or wear something that is very flattering to your shape more people will ask where you got it from. Spread the word about who you shop from and if you are in lager sizes like 32 and up share who you buy from. We can change the industry and I know that is what many of us are waiting for.

    Peace & Love

    Do Plus Size Women Identify With Other Plus Size Women?

     
     
    For years we’ve demanded to see more plus size women in the pages of magazines and in ad campaigns. Despite success stories in various magazines, “the experts” If over 50% of the female population wears fits into the category of plus size, featuring plus size models in magazines only makes sense. It’s as simple as 1 + 1 = 2….Easy.
     
    A new study conducted by Durham University has confirmed what plus size women have been saying for years, that plus size women prefer to see other curvy girls in ad campaigns. It’s a shame that it took them so long to see the light but I guess its better than them not seeing it at all.
     
    Durham University’s research supports the idea that models used in advertisements should represent average women, women who are a size 12….plus size women. The study also suggests that the use of average women would assist in developing healthier attitudes toward eating.
     
    When participants were shown ‘glamourous’ plus size women alongside underweight women the participants were partial toward the plus size women.
     
    According to Dr. Lynda Boothroyd, lead author of the report, “we found that visual experience (seeing larger or thinner bodies) changed preferences for our whole sample. Women’s own body image didn’t play a role and we didn’t include their weight in our paper.”
     
    To view the study: http://www.boothlab.org/
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    Everyone wants to see some one that looks like them in magazines and advertisements. The problem I have with plus media is most models are not over a size 18. I hear a lot of complaints from women size 20 and up. They also want to see women in the media around their size as well. Even in the plus size community there is still certain things that needs to be changed and this is one of them. I cant relate to a plus size woman that's a size 14/16.
     
    Article above courtesy of www.dailyvenusdiva.com

    Thursday, November 8, 2012

    Coco (Ice T's Wife) Speaks on Her Body Image Issues Growing Up



    The voluptuous Coco recently divulged intimate details about her life, admitting Hollywood was so full of criticism due to her plump apple bottom, she couldn’t cope until butt enthusiast made her a star..

    Although Coco’s curves are now a reality show staple, the bodacious blonde wasn’t always happy with her assets.

    In a pretty revelatory interview with the gossip rag Sister 2 Sister magazine, Ice-T’s wife of over ten years claimed that she struggled with an eating disorder after being called fat by a photo shoot director while a teenager.

    Coco stated to Jamie Foster:
    “When I was 18, the J.Lo butt was not in. To have a booty was not the thing. You were considered fat if you had a booty. I was being cast in stuff where you’ll see all these really beanpole-looking white girls with blonde hair and big boobs. That’s what I wanted to be.”

    Coco subsequently began to an purging regimen when she was told by her director that she needed to lose weight.
    “I went and tried everything from diet pills to cleansing to everything you could possibly do to get rid of your butt. Bulimia – I tried that but I love my food too much.”
    In steps Ice-T who appreciated her curves, and told Coco that she needed to make her next move her best move and he then put her on reality TV block and rest is pop-culture history.

    Seriously, we’re happy Coco made it through her eating disorder and self-image complications after her husband Ice helped her appreciate her curves, reminding her:

    “You got a little waist and a nice, round butt … That’s what’s unique about you. The boobs – anybody can go buy them.”
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    More and more female celebrities are sharing their stories of weight and body image issues and I am beyond happy. What you see on TV is not everyones reality. Even celebrities are trying to fit into society standards and go through the same issues as us. You are not alone and their stories can be used to learn from. You are who you are and having unique features is what makes us all different. LOVE YOURSELF.

    Courtesy of www.frugivoremag.com

    Dont Give In To Others

    So since I have started to eat more healthy and exercise the more I notice how much some people try to get me to eat things I am trying to stay away from. It is very hard to give up certain things and some people don't make it any easier.

    At work every Friday is donut day. I also have a coworker that does a lot of baking. Lets not forget Halloween just passed. All are so tempting but for the most part I am doing good. I brought in my own healthy snacks to keep at work for when I have a snack attack. I do allow myself to have a donut on Fridays. I figure if I'm doing everything I'm supposed to than there's nothing wrong with eating one.

    The most important thing is to not let others get in the way of your goal. If you want to eat healthy don't be afraid to say it. They shouldn't take offence to it but if they do so what. You have to gain control over your life. Except nothing less than what you deserve. People can only do to you what you allow them to do.

    Focus on your goals to become a better you. Stay strong and stand up for yourself. You will thank yourself later.

    Peace & Love

    Wednesday, November 7, 2012

    Size Fabulous was Nominated...Please Vote for Us



    My blog was nominated for the Navabi Curvy Blog Award 2012. Please vote for me, my blog is number 235. Thanks in advance :)

    Vote Here:  http://blog.navabi.co.uk/en/navabi-curvy-blog-award-2012/

    Look of The Week



    I love how styles always come back around. One thing I have always loved from before I was even born is a pair of flare leg or bell bottom jeans. My favorite pants to wear in high school. The shoes have a chunky heel which usually makes them more comfortable. The chunkier the heel the less strain and pressure on your feet. You can easily dress this look up or down. Just play it how you feel that day.

    Brooke Flared Jeans from Simply Be at $48.00
    Scarf Print Button Up from Dots at $19.80
    Buckled Strap Platform Pumps from Forever 21 at $29.80

    Melissa McCarthy on Her Weight Struggle



    Melissa McCarthy's realistic portrayal of a plus-sized character on TV's "Mike and Mike" has won her a devoted fan following — and an Emmy! — but that doesn't mean the actress is always completely comfortable in her own skin.

    In the December issue of Good Housekeeping, the 42-year-old opens up about her ongoing struggle to lose weight. "Sometimes I wish I were just magically a size 6 and I never had to give it a single thought," admits McCarthy, whose hilarious turn in "Bridesmaids" also helped put her on the map. "But I am weirdly healthy, so I don't beat myself up about it — it wouldn't help, and I don't want to pass that on to my girls."

    Read More From The Melissa McCarthy Cover Story in Good Housekeeping

    McCarthy, who has two daughters — Vivian, 5, and Georgette, 2 — with her actor husband Ben Falcone, say she stays active by doing Pilates and playing tennis, but her exercise regime hasn't made her Hollywood skinny. "I don't really know why I'm not thinner than I am," the Illinois native candidly tells the magazine. "I don't really drink soda; I don't have a sweet tooth, and we eat healthfully at home.'

    Although she has some insecurities, McCarthy is realistic and knows she's not the only woman out there struggling with her body image. "Pretty much everyone I know, no matter what size, is trying some system," she says, referring to the seemingly endless list of weight-loss programs on the market. "Even when someone gets to looking like she should be so proud of herself, instead she's like, 'I could be another three pounds less; I could be a little taller and have bigger lips.' Where does it end? … You just have to say, 'It's pretty damn good. I am right here at the moment and I'm OK with it. I've got other things to think about.'"
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    At the end of the day we all have our insecurities but like Melissa said you cant beat yourself up about it. Love yourself at the size you are right now. Focus on your health and not your pants size.

    Read the full article here: http://omg.yahoo.com/blogs/balancedliving/melissa-mccarthy-her-weight-struggle-sometimes-wish-were-194954203.html

    Tuesday, November 6, 2012

    Beyond a 3X, Fashions for the Plus Size Woman


    Plus SIze Model Rosie Mercado beyond a size 3X
    Rosie Mercado featured in Sealed With A Kiss Feature

    I have been meaning to do this for the longest, I swear! As designers are rocking out in fashions, giving us OPTIONS to dress our personalities and moods, so are the options in the breadth and width of sizes and styles for those of you 3X and better!

    No for real! Now, why most designers stop at a size 3X, honestly, I cannot give you a qualified answer. However, rather than harp on what is not available; let me share with you the designers and retailers who are MORE CONTEMPORARY (which excludes a few) who are giving fashionable options above a 3X!

    I was trying to figure out the best way to rock this out, so I decided to show and share faves from varied designers and give you the 411 on each! So, please make sure to bookmark, pin, share and keep this as a reference!

    Beyond a 3X, Fashions for the Plus Size Woman

    While we do have our cornerstone designers and retailers, Eliza Parker, Lane Bryant, Ashley Stewart, Avenue, Catherine’s, CJ Banks, Old Navy, Lands’ End, Navabi, and Old Navy, there are quite a few that I wanted to make sure that YOU knew!

    One Stop Plus

    One Stop Plus Plus sizes up to 44W
    (Clockwise from bottom left: Ulla Popken Liquid Shimmer Shirt, Jessica London Black Dress with Jeweled Clasp, Avenue Allover Sequin Tank Dress, Ulla Popken Sequin Banded Chiffon Dress, Jessica London Plus Size Leather Jacket 5 Colors)
    While I could have listed Avenue, Jessica London, Ulla Popken, and countless others, as an online mall, One Stop Plus carries over 10,000 products, up to 28 colors, 70 sizes. With women’s clothing in sizes 12W-44W (including petites and talls), you will definitely be able to find something here that tickles your fancy. One Stop Plus ships internationally and in some countries, they have dedicated sites!


    Cult of Cali

    Cult of Cali Plus Size Fashion up to size 30
    Cult of Cali featured in Plus Model Magazine
    A new designer on the scene, Cult of Cali provides fashion forward workout, cocktail edge, and loungewear up to a size 30! Created by Jen Wilder, Cult of Cali was created to give the plus size woman permission to look good and to celebrate her shape without no apologies!

     

    Nothing Will Change Without Your Efforts

    I hear a lot of women complain daily about what they don't like about their bodies, clothes, hair, life and etc. I can admit I complain about things too. Have you sat down to think about what you have done to make the changes you need to feel better about it? Have you revamped your wardrobe? Lost a few pounds? Embraced the body you have? Change up your hair styles? These are all things you should be doing to become a happier you.

    You don't have to lose 100 pounds to be beautiful, but if you feel losing some weight can help your confidence and self-esteem then go for it. You have to be willing to put in the work to make it happen. Nothing will change without your efforts. If you feel like your clothes are out dated or your just not feeling that look you can do things to change it also.

    Even if your money is tight (like mine) you can do inexpensive things to switch it up. Try adding accessories, mix matching prints, go to thrift stores and you can also check out plus size fashion bloggers they always have great info on the latest trends. The most important thing is to make changes for yourself and not someone else.

    You are the only one that can truly make yourself happy so make sure your doing things to make yourself a better you. You can't love someone else without loving yourself first.

    Peace & Love