Tuesday, August 26, 2014
1. Not buying the right size
This is a very common mistake women make. It is tough to find trendy clothing in larger sizes specially women over a size 2x or 22. Always make sure to check for a few things: make sure your buttons are not pulling the material. Your fabric should lad flat and smooth. If the waist of your pants is digging into you stomach, they are to small. If your fabric stretches to the point it becomes see through, than it is too small.
2. Do not always dress age appropriate
Majority of trendy plus size fashions in stores are junior plus sizes. We must remember that even thought that top and leggings are cute, you may be a little to old to wear it. It is nice to find and wear cool prints, but just make sure they are appropriate for the occasion.
3. Believe a girdle(spanx) will fix everything
Girdles are made to smooth your rolls and pull you in a little, however, they are not miracle workers. Having a foundation piece is great for wearing bodycon dresses and to just smooth you out and enhance your curves.
4. Not mix and matching prints and colors properly
There is a right and wrong way to mix and match prints and colors. Sometimes women can do too much and end up looking like a Christmas tree. Understand that less is more and although mixing and matching can be show stopping when done properly, there is fine line when you can go to far.
5. Being too insecure to wear fabulous fashions
Body image issues keeps many women from dressing to their highest potential. They follow too many fashion rules which hinders the possibility of truly looking your best. Not all fashion rules are meant to be followed. Your style should tell what type of person you are without you having to speak.
The only fashion rules you should follow are ones that will bring out your inner fabulousness. Remember not everything is meant for everyone so be aware of how you look in certain items to make sure you look your best!
Wednesday, August 20, 2014
Target has done many fabulous collaborations with designers and they usually sell out quickly. There is just one problem.... They never feature sizes above 16. The topic of designers not wanting to include lager size has been disputed for years now and yet we are still finding ourselves fighting for equal rights in the fashion world. I have a love hate relationship with Targets plus size section.
One minute they might have some very cute items and then the next month they have a terrible selection. Not to mention our section is pushed back in a corner near the dressing room while their straight sizes take up almost the whole side of the women's clothing area. Like many other retailers, the straight sizes has a great variety of cute and fashionable clothing. On the other hand you have the very and I do mean very basic selections of the plus size section. Jeans, a few tops, and your basic tees. All I can do is shake my head while I right this. I can say every once in a while they will have some cute items, but that is very few and far between.
I am not alone in my feelings toward Target. Last week plus size blogger Chastity of Garner Style wrote an open letter to Target about her feelings toward their plus size section and their designer collaborations. She has stated what many of are thinking and she gave very valid points. She announce she would no longer be a customer of Target. Not only will she not shop their plus section, she cut them off all together. Her blog post had lead many other plus size beauties to follow in suit and boycott Target as well.
Hearing about the Target boycott, Target has released a statement via Refinery29 saying,
“We never want our guests to feel disappointed, and if we’ve let them down, we apologize. We appreciate the opportunity to hear directly from our guests. We’ll take this feedback into consideration as we move forward. In the meantime, we offer a variety of plus options. We’ll also be introducing a new plus line in the near future that features a focus on the latest styles, all at great prices.”
His statement sounds like crap to me. It's basically saying we are sorry you feel this way but you can continue to shop the great plus size section we
I do feel that the more we stand up and express what we want to see will eventually bring change. It might not start tomorrow but as long as our voices are heard we will see change.
What are your thoughts??
Monday, August 18, 2014
Nene has been on a roll lately and she doesn't seem to be slowing down. With the success of her clothing line through HSN, Nene has yet to take a break of the fast life and I love it. Nene has always been my favorite on The Real Housewives of Atlanta for being the take no crap tell it like it is sista. Although this is not her first magazine cover, it is definitely one of my favorites of her. She is making sure she stays "Very Rich Bitch" as she would say lol. I love it Nene!!!!!!!! You can check her out in Pose Magazine this September.
Monday, August 11, 2014
I pretty much used him as a void to fill space and time while I was in between more serious relationships. I met him when he starting working at my job in about 2005 and I was 19. We were instantly friends but nothing more since he was married at the time. Fast forward to 2008 after I returned back to my home town from living in another state and the birth of my daughter. Me and my daughter's dad was broken up and one night at the club guess who I run into....My old buddy. We instantly hit if off like I never left and since he was no longer married I had no problem with our friendship moving to the next level.
That next level was us just having a good time with each other, nothing too serious, but he definitely had my attention. That was until I was wooed by my daughter's dad and dropped my little boo like a bad habit LOL. Now lets fast forward another year or so to the birth of my twins and eventually ended the relationship with my kids father AGAIN...(smh I know). Who did I run back too...my old boo. He was my rebound guy, my I'm bored guy, my I need love and affection guy, my I just want a serious and good relationship guy. I thought because we never had issues that he could possibly be the man I need to be with. So over the course of I don't know how long he was my boo and I wasn't until I had a serious conversation with him that I learned he may not be the one for me.
As I noticed my feelings were getting stronger for him, I also noticed how certain things started to bother me. I was over the waiting for text and calls back. I was annoying with the priority level I was on. I was highly upset at the things we did for "quality time spent together". And I started to feel nothing but more than a booty call of sorts. It was all fun and games until feelings get involved so I sat him down for a talk. Turns how he didn't want what I did. but he didn't want to lose me (guys kill me with that). So I had a decision to make and after talking to my sister about it and my kids dad wooing me again...smh, I dropped my tender-roni like a hot potato.
So years go by and after my horrible breakup with my kids father (definitely for good this time lol) I randomly and unexpectantly get poked on Facebook and guess who it is...my boo thang lol. I was flooded back with fun memories and cue our cute little convo of how its been so long and how he missed me. So when he asked about my relationship and I give him the it just didn't work out line, he hits me back with the I should have just stayed with him. But wasn't you the one that didn't want a relationship????? Here we go again, but this time was it was different and that was because I was different. The last break up with my kids dad gave me a different view on what I want out of my next relationship and it definitely didn't include someone who is giving mixed vibes on what they wanted. We are to old for that and sure enough he started his flakiness straight out the gate. I knew it was a wrap and I'm happy I didn't really pursue anything with him this time around.
Things will never change unless we demand change and even then is it even worth it. Some relationships need to stay buried and be gone forever. Remember why it didn't work in the first place and evaluate if it's worth being a part of your life again. Can me and dude be friends....absolutely, but as far as a relationship....nah I'm good. It was fun while it lasted.