No One Wants a Large Miss Universe

It's so cliché to say "It's 2017, why is this still an issue?" But that is just the case for the topic of a woman that is not the "standard" size of society to do great things. I have not been watching the Miss Universe Pageant, but I did come across a lot of articles on the obsession people have about Miss Canada's size. Lets be very clear! Miss Canada, Siera Bearchell, is far from overweight. However compared to all the other pageant women that are typically thin she does have a larger frame.


Siera has not always been the size she is right now. At Miss Supranational 2015 Bearchell was slim like her counterparts. When asked about her weight gain in an interview she stated:

"This competition is more than what we look like. It's about being comfortable with who we are, it's about sharing a message that is important to us."

My Top 5 Tips to Beat The Winter Blues

Winter is not my favorite time of year. Lets be honest it is freezing all the time (and for someone with anemia like myself I am an icicle). The snow and ice is the biggest inconvenience. You have to wear layers and layers of clothes, and people don't want to leave their homes. I don't mind the cold as much since I have moved south but I am the happiest ever to not have to deal with the feet of snow back up north. While some enjoy this time many develop a Seasonal Affective Disorder, commonly known as the winter blues. People typically begin to feel fatigue, depression, hopelessness, and social withdrawal during this time. Although all types of depression is serious this one can usually be treated by making a few changes in your surroundings. Below I have listed my top 5 ways to beat the winter blues.

The Top 6 Misconceptions of Plus Size Women

Have you ever had a conversation with someone and shared things you have done or wore and they seemed surprised. Although we live normal lives, there are some people that believe our lives are anything but like theirs. I have complied the top 6 misconceptions of plus size women. Can you relate????

#1 Plus size women are lazy....

Most plus size women are not lazy. We enjoy getting out of the house and doing activities. Just because we are overweight does not mean we sit on the couch all day.

#2 Plus size women are totally unhealthy and near death lol

While I do understand some risk factors with our health, not all plus size women are having health issues. It is very possible to be over 200 pounds and still live a healthy lifestyle.

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Top 5 Reasons Why All You Need Is Yourself

We live in a world where everyone is seeking someone's approval. We grow up pleasing our parents and wanting to do things that makes them proud of us. That then moves on to being recognized by your employer. Our friends hold a great weight in guiding us to make the best choices collectively. And lets not forget with the rise in social media we seek greatness from people we don't even know. But, why is that? Why do we often find ourselves torn between who we want to be and who they may want us to be.


I wanted to share the top 5 tips on what you can do to embrace and be yourself regardless of what others think...


1. Welcome suggestions, criticism, and opinions BUT only use them as tools not as your decisions. Lets be honest we all need a little guidance sometimes but let it be guidance not your final decision.


2. If you want to discuss a topic with someone that you already know doesn't agree with it... DON'T! Talking to someone about something when you already know there stance on it is pointless. This just lets to discussions or arguments with no resolution so don't waste your time.

My First Iron Infusion

I mentioned in one of my YouTube videos that I was going to be getting an iron infusion to help treat my anemia. I have been anemic for around 5 years now and have not had much progression on it getting better. At a few points throughout the years I was up to taking three iron pills a day. I'm not going to say I'm an angel and never missed a day but my blood levels remain at an extreme low.


I struggled with all the symptoms of having an iron deficiency. Being exhausted was an understatement. I had what I called functional tired and non-functional tired. That is how I lived daily. I also had muscle fatigue, headaches, irritability, and more. When I moved to Charlotte and found my new doctor I have been getting all the necessary treatment I needed. My new doctor is very throughout and made sure I get all the test needed to figure out what was wrong.

Will I Ever Find True Love at This Weight???

I ask myself this question from time to time. Will I ever find true love at this weight? Sometimes when I ask myself that I have to just laugh. I'm not sure about some of you but I think I am a great catch LOL. So heck yes I know I am worth the true love I desire. However, why do I feel like it might not happen for me at the size I am. I see many big women who are in loving relationships which reminds m that it is possible. What I have learned that it is not the fact that I think my weight is keeping me from having a man. It is the insecurities I have about my weight that is trickling into my want of a relationship.


When we want something, regardless of what it is, we can often be our worst critic. When you find yourself doubting a situation that is the time to dissect why you are feeling that way. Below I have a few tips on what I do to help in that area to feel better about plus size dating...

How Do You Love Your Body BUT You Want to Lose Weight

I've came across a few things that this topic came up. Typically it's a large woman that is either trying to or has lost weight and is getting negative comments from others. What's more surprising is that the negative comments comes from other big women or men. You know it's kind of crazy to me to see others putting someone down for making changes to their own body. I have never received negative comments about losing weight. The most I have heard is not to lose too much. That is stupid too! I think because those who are receiving backlash are people who are more known basically celebrities in their own right and have a large following.

The Excuses of The Big Girl

I have had a some great things going on that has taken up a lot of my time but I had to get back to you guys. I recently did some things with a few other plus size people that has made me feel some type of way being a big girl myself. That would be excuses from people who are of larger sizes. I have had my moments of when I didn't want to do things or I was scared to try things, but I have never functioned in a way of having excuses for everything. This actually bothers me.


Being a larger size I am all too familiar with having difficulties in certain areas. I have knee issues that makes it very tough to do a lot of things. Not to mention just being a larger size I have more to move around specially when it comes to working out or dancing. I also I have health issues that makes it hard for me to do things, so I get it. What I will not do is make my size be my excuse.

Top 3 Tips to Self Confidence

There is no doubt my self confidence fluctuates from time to time depending on where I am in my life. Currently I am not myself in regards to how I feel about myself in certain areas. Like many stress, anxiety, and other factors plays a major role on how you feel about yourself. Below I wanted to share the top three things I do to keep my confidence level up or at least try to get in a better head space.

1. Write yourself reminders. I have post it notes everywhere, especially on mirrors. Find an object that you will look at frequently like mirrors, doors, computer, phone, and etc. You will have no choice but to read the message when you look at that object.

29 Things I Learned Before Turning 30

I saw this and thought it was cool. I am a little late as my birthday was August 28, but here is 29 things I learned before turning 30.

  

PRAY WHEN YOU'RE HAPPY AND WHEN YOU'RE SAD

HEALTH IS WEALTH

FAMILY WILL ALWAYS HAVE YOUR BACK

KIDS ARE A BLESSING

SOME RELATIONSHIPS ARE NOT MEANT TO LAST

I DON’T LIKE BEING AN ADULT (LOL)

BE YOURSELF

LOVE YOURSELF

FORGIVENESS HEALS HATRED

Weightloss and Life Update

Monthly Weigh In

It is finally time to give you guys an update on my numbers for my weight and my measurements. My previous measurements have been misplaced so I don't have those numbers to compare. I can say that clothes are fitting better so I know I have lost a good amount of inches. My starting weight was 298. Below are my current numbers as well as comparison photos. I see the biggest changes in my side and back pictures. Going forward I will try to keep the same clothes on to see how I transform in them.

My Weightloss Progress in Charlotte So Far

Hey Loves.....

I am trying to be consistent  again with posting so expect a new post at least once a week.

Ok so I have been living in Charlotte for 2 months now and although my progress has been slow I am still making progress. I do not know my current weight because I do not own a scale but the last time I weighed myself at my sisters house I was 295. That's a big jump from the 276 I was back in April and close to the 317 I was last year. I hate that I let myself gain 20 pounds back but I know how it happened and I am not letting it happen anymore.

I Moved to Charlotte!!!!...and Gained Weight

Oh my goodness guys you have no idea how much I needed a break from EVERYTHING. I finally made that move to Charlotte, NC with my daughters and I can breath again. Preparing for this move was way more than I bargained for, but the move was so needed.

My move to Charlotte was to have a better life for me and daughters and to be closer to my sisters. I was supposed to move years ago but always chickened out when it was time to start planning for it. Welp I didn't chicken out this time and the last week of June I got on the road to a better life.

I Taught My First Fitness Class!!!!!!

I taught my very first fitness class all by myself on Saturday. As you may know I have been promoting a twerk class and I am so happy about how it went. When I visit Charlotte, I usually teach a twerk class with my sister for her company Trophy Wife Fitness. After I taught one this past April, my friends in Syracuse asked for me to teach one here and I thought that would be a fun thing to do.

It was a breeze to plan everything, but I was still nervous. I've mentioned many times to people that this healthy journey has changed my mindset and I want to help others along their healthy journey. Becoming a certified personal trainer may be in my future, but I want to get myself in the best space possible to properly help others. I have a lot of people that reach out to me for tips and help and I think this might be a great career change for me. I understand what it is like to be over 300 pounds and trying to fight your way to a healthier body. I'll keep you guys posted on that going forward.

Anywhooooo back to my class!

Team No Sleep Over Here

There has been great things happening in my life, but I think it's causing me to have anxiety which leads to insomnia. I've never dealt with lack of sleep other than being tired from my anemia. My anemia tired is totally different than insomnia tired. With my anemia, it doesn't matter how many hours I get of sleep, I am still physically tired. That's the type of sleep when you don't want to move your body and your muscles are tired. Being tired from insomnia is simply not getting enough hours.

Being that this has never happened, I definitely think it is because I have my Twershop tomorrow, a 5k next Saturday, I'm going to Vegas the following week, and One other thing I am not announcing yet. These are all new things that I am doing and I am soooo excited about all of them, but nervous at the same time.

Counting Macros... Not Calories

Counting calories seem to be the norm for majority of people who are trying to lose weight and that is awesome. Weightloss is basically calories in vs. calories out. You want to be in a calorie deficit to lose pounds. That is why it is very important to keep track of what you eat to make sure you are staying on the right path when it comes to your nutrition.

I've been counting calories since I starting my journey but I have been having trouble with the amount of calories I should hit each day. Now in the beginning my goal was 1200 each day, but I found that I some times would get hungry and that lead me to making bad choices by the end of the day. The problem I found is that I was focused more on calories than the nutrients in the calories. That is why I am now counting my macronutrients versus my calories.