I have shared many times my up and down relationship with my daughter's father and how our last break up was just horrible. This was almost eight years of stress and hurt that I couldn't take anymore. After the break up earlier this year, it took me a long time to get myself together. You spend so many years with someone who at some point did make you happy to having to let that person go because the relationship has become toxic. It was very hard to accept that I was better off without him even though I still loved him.
After finally collecting myself and picking up the pieces I was more than ready to get out there and begin dating again and I really didn't have an issue meeting men. My issue was more so of the men I had met. Now after all these years of drama I have a pretty clear cut picture of what I want in my future mate and what I will and will not put up with. Needless to say I found I had to cut more men off than I thought I would do to many reasons that I did not want to deal with.
I just got tired of the dating seen very quickly and it actually added a little stress to my life that I did not want to deal with. Either dating was becoming exhausting or I am not as ready as I thought. Now do I want a relationship....absolutely! I do know there are great men out there, I am just not at a point in my life where I want to weed through the bad apples to get to the good one at this time.
I figure I can put that same energy into becoming healthier and getting my life and my business on the path I want it to be on. Focusing on my life, my children, and my career is what is making me the happiest and if loves comes knocking I will definitely answer. BUT, until I am ready to deal with the steps of meeting, getting to know, and having a relationship with someone I'm just going to chill. Not to mention being single has cleared my mind and put me in a better head space.
Cheers to the single life!!!