Thursday, October 17, 2013

Everyone is NOT Fat Shamming You!!!

I am pretty sure you have heard about the mom of 3, Maria King, and her fitness photo. Here photo has now gone viral because many believe she is fat shaming. I completely disagree!

I understand what it's like to be a busy mom of 3 with 2 jobs (one of which I own). I have a 4 year old, 2 year old twins. I work over 40 hours a week. I handle all of the cooking and I do most of the cleaning and preparing for the next day, not to mention I don't like to miss my fav shows. I used to use how busy I was as an excuse to not be very healthy.

I am not saying you can't be overweight and healthy because I have never had any issues because of my weight. I got to a point after my first daughter that I wanted to lose weight and get more healthy and fit. It has been a roller coaster especially since I had my twins. I have way less time to dedicate to fitness BUT I make it happen. I believe Maria's photo was meant for those who want to be healthier and more fit but let their excuses get in the way.

 Everyone that sends out messages are not attacking others. Now there are times when people do send out messages and pictures to shames others. Wee see that everyday, but I don't agree that this is one of them. I feel those who were offended have their own insecurities within themselves that this picture struck a cord with. I could understand if she had including other things in her statement that where very offensive but to simply say what's your excuse can be targeted toward everyone, not just overweight women.

I hate when people are quick to judge without knowing the other person's situation. Maria shares that she suffered from bulimia in the past along with other things about herself which lets me know that she has had her own struggles but did not use them as an excuse.

At times I feel some plus size women get to emotional to fast and are quick to yell fat shaming without looking further into things. There are also a lot of plus size women who don't realize they thin shame women. How many post have you seen of bigger women putting down skinny women? It is all the same thing people.

Yes fat people get shamed often, HOWEVER, not everyone is fat shaming you. We need to work on our sensitivity to subjects before we jump to a conclusion.

You all know I love you ladies and I am sorry if you disagree with me (everyone is entitled to their own opinion). I hope Maria King's photo did not offend you and if it did I am sorry. Always remember you are fabulous, amazing, and beautiful women.


  1. I know how hard weight loss can be I've struggled with it all my life. But with the help of I was able to get to a healthy weight for the first time in my life.

  2. I couldn't agree more with you. The people who are critical of this picture should take a step back and think about why they are feeling so negative towards it. I have a 10 month old and in no way look like the woman in the picture, but I think that's awesome that she has attained that body! It's kinda motivating for me. Thank you for sharing your view point!

    1. Thank you for reading. I agree with you, I think many people missed her point. Her photo is motivation for me as well.

  3. I stumbled across this article while researching "Fat Shaming" and "Bullying"; I was trying to see the comparison, before writing a piece myself. I have been a moderator for a Fat Acceptance site, and I model, occasionally, for a plus size clothing store, so I am a bit more comfortable and confident with myself than many plus size women and men. However, that doesn't negate the fact that I have been fat shamed/bullied all of my life for being fat. Yet, I do not understand how society, as a whole, can say that it is against bullying, yet, you have entertainers, family, friends, co-workers, and the public, who make fun, use aggressive behavior, and spout hatred toward fat people, but we are supposed to be sensitive towards them, due to their feelings towards us. I'm confused.

    But, I do have to agree with you about the photo that it was not fat shaming, and I too felt like it was more of a motivation. If one is offended by this, don't diminish their feelings, but do continue to share the photo and your thoughts. Without dialogue about the issue, there will never be a resolve or conclusion; we have to be open minded, just as people have to open their minds towards fat people; after all, we are people too.

    1. Thank you for commenting and I agree with you. I don't think we should ignore how pictures like these make other feels but I do think we need to get to the bottom of why they feel that way and what they can do to over come it.