The Top 6 Misconceptions of Plus Size Women

Have you ever had a conversation with someone and shared things you have done or wore and they seemed surprised. Although we live normal lives, there are some people that believe our lives are anything but like theirs. I have complied the top 6 misconceptions of plus size women. Do you relate????

#1 Plus size women are lazy....

Most plus size women are not lazy. We enjoy getting out of the house and doing activities. Just because we are overweight does not mean we sit on the couch all day.

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What Journey Are You Choosing??

So Size Fabulous serves a set purpose focusing on certain things. I often find myself looking at other people to compare what I'm doing to what they are doing, especially if they are more known in the industry. Then I snap out of it and I remember why I am doing what I am doing. I am reaching goals for myself. I have a set story I am trying to tell that includes none other than myself.

I say that to say this, comparing yourself to others will never get you anywhere. Focus on your own goals, your own story and you will be happy you did in the end. You are amazing and you are still writing your story, never let anyone steal your joy!!!

 

 

Seek out Resources...OOTD

I did an expo recently and speaking with women and teens I've come to the conclusion that not many women and teens in Syracuse seek out the resources they need to achieve their goals in regards to battling weight issues, body image, and help with their wardrobe. Then I was thinking again that there isn't many companies reaching out to the community to inform them of their services. When I started Size Fabulous and began to research for my business plan, I realized I was the only one in Syracuse doing what I do. It's unfortunate but that is why I feel my presence in Syracuse can cause a revolution. There is only great things to come from Size Fabulous in Syracuse and beyond.



 

 

Boss Status OOTD

I can't help but feel very powerful this morning. I am not lying when I say your outfit can change your whole mood for the better. I was tired and didn't want to go to work, who does, this morning. I already had my look picked out last night so all I had to do was put it on and boy did it perk me up like coffee. I just got these shoes on Monday and couldn't wait to rock them. Everything was planned around my shoes and just fell into place with no problem. Now I'm walking around with a smile on my face all because of what I am wearing.

 

 

 

Outfit Deets: Shirt: Walmart / Skirt: Lane Bryant / Shoes: ShoeDazzle / Necklace: Gifted

The Mastered Bun and Skater Dress

Buns are all the rage in hairstyles this summer. They have a way of making you look more polished and chic...unless your doing a messy bun. I have been working on perfecting my bun without using any tools like socks or bun creators. My hair is long but gets thin towards the end, but today I was able to create the best bun yet without any gaps and I am loving it!

Quick Style Note: As much as I love a cute skater dress or skirt, the length is always a challenge for me. I have a hard time finding one that will keep me from mooning people. I did find this dress that has a length that I am comfortable with, just don't let the wind blow...yikes. Since I loved the length, I bought this dress in two other colors...yes I have three of the same style dress. It's just so fun and flirty I couldn't pass them up.

 

 

 

Outfit Deets: Dress: Rainbow / Shoes: Target / Belt: JcPenney

Don't Be in Love with Being in Love

Since I have been working on my inner self I have been doing a lot of thinking about what I look for in a man and relationship. This has not also came without trial and error. I've written a post before about plus size women and dating but this goes a little bit beyond that. My sister told me about a list she was told to write; about what she looks for in a mate including things that are an absolute must and some things that she prefers but isn't a deal breaker. I love that idea!

The things I accepted before, I will no longer tolerate in my relationships. Going through my on again off again relationship with my daughter's father has been tough but we are working on making it great. I also had an on and off again "dating" or "messing around" type of relationship for a couple years also with a guy. In each relationship I was always scared to speak up for certain things because I didn't want to run them off. I always wanted that great relationship like everyone else but I compromised my happiness for all these years just to be single again from time to time.

When you are in an actual boyfriend/girlfriend relationship always stand up for yourself and BE YOURSELF. Don't get lost in his world only making him happy and not you. Any man that truly loves you will love your regardless of your faults and will meet you half way in every aspect of the relationship. Now there are men that do love their woman but don't appreciate her or show her the love she needs until its too late. That happens so many times. They do the bare minimum to keep you but not enough to keep you happy. When the female gets tired of it and move one now they're hurt. Now they want to prove to you what kind of man they can be but its to late.

If a man can't be that man you need in the beginning way waist your time. I'm not talking about you wanting a man to be rich but a man that is rich in LIFE. The man that is a homie, lover, friend and has all the goals and aspirations that you look for in a husband. If he doesn't meet you half way or he doesn't posses the qualities you have on your list then move on. You CAN NOT change a man into what you want him to be.

Also when you decide to simply "mess" with someone set some standards with that as well. There is nothing wrong with that type of relationship but set some boundaries. Let him know he can't treat you like a doormat. The guy I used to see swore we didn't have a booty call type of relationship but he treated it like one. He only called at night and never answered his calls or text. All the while he wanted me to believe we had something more. So that last time we spoke I went off on him. I didn't want to be a booty call and I wasn't going to be one. Needless to say the calls stopped coming after that conversation and I was happy they did.

I am no longer into changing men or settling for less than I deserve because I want a companion. There is someone for everyone and that will happen in due time. All that silliness I fell for before will never happen again. I look back at how foolish I have been but it can't even say I was foolish. I was a girl in love with love and took any kind love that was given to me.

Stay strong ladies and know your worth. Your prince charming will be waiting for you at the right time. No need to waist any your time or life on a man that doesn't fit your life in the right way.

Did Harper's Bazaar Fail Gabourey Sidibe????

Not often, if ever do we get to see a plus size celebrity, model, woman in an editorial spread for Harper's Bazaar. When I heard Gabourey Sidibe was featured along with other celebrities and models I was excited. I am still excited about it. It shows that we are making our way to being included in mainstream and popular magazines.

I feel like the only difference between plus and straight size women is their size. They are still as beautiful and fabulous as their counterparts. Yet we are still treated as if we can and don't have the same life. I recently had a high school friend on Facebook talk about her horrible experience over hearing a group of boys say she would be cute if her body was smaller. She is now in the process of planning  weight loss surgery and I hurt for her. Plus size women is constantly made to feel that we are not good enough simple because we carry a heavier frame. It's not that we are mean or hurtful people, we just weigh more.

Looking at plus size women in magazines and on TV gives us hope that we are on the verge of being completely accepted. HOWEVER when a plus size person is featured in something and they make her look worse than everyone else it is a big let down and the feeling that we are still not accepted is heard loud and clear. I love that Gabby was featured but her clothing selection was beyond terrible and a bit disrespectful is you ask me.

After looking at the other women that was features it is very clear that they had no idea how to dress Gabby. I find it hard to believe that at this time they could not find more flattering pieces to have her wear. I understand that this was a high fashion editorial spread by lets get real. The title of the shoot is called "Singular Beauty", but there is nothing beautiful about how they made Gabby look.

Let's breakdown her outfit. She is in all black for the most part. I don't know if they thought it would make her look more slim, but fist of all the blacks are two different shades. They look like pajamas and do nothing for her figure. She has on basic black pumps also which is fine. Now this jacket honey.....Fail.The coat is very straight and makes her look boxy. It would have been better if it was buttoned up and tied around the waist to give her a more feminine silhouette. To top of this horrible look the put a scarf on her head. The scarf is cute but makes her face look very round. It would have looked better if maybe they created a wrap style or turban style head piece.

I have not seen one person say anything positive about Gabourey's photo and doubt we will. I think it is a disservice to feature a plus size woman and dress her horribly. We have too many plus size high fashion designers for her to not have something fabulous to wear. All I can do is SMH at this photo of Gabourey. I have included some of the other people photographed for "Singular Beauty" so you can see how they look.





How do you feel about Gabby's picture?????

Obese & Pregnant or Should I Say Obese with a Ton of Medical Problems & Pregnant

So a couple days ago I was watching a show on the discovery health channel called "Obese & Pregnant" I love watching all types of pregnancy and baby shows. I have not seen this show before and thought it would be interesting to see plus size women like myself go through their birthing journey. The show ended with me being very upset. They did not focus on the joy of being pregnant at a larger size, they instead focused on medical issues the women either had before, during, or after having a baby. There was not one women that did not have a normal and healthy pregnancy. That's what really bothered me.

There is plenty of plus size women who has not had children yet and was probably scared to have any after watching this show. It saddens me that no matter what the topic is, if a person is overweight they will mainly focus on the medical issues you can get or already have. Can we not still enjoy giving the gift of life without someone focusing on obesity related issues. I an so sick of listening to people give the speach of you can only be healthy if you loose weight. I am not blind to the fact that people do develop health issues because of their weight but that does not apply to everyone.

I could have been great on this show. I have 3 children, 2 of which are twins and I have never had a medical issue before, during, or after my pregnancies. With my first child, I believe my weight got up to around 290 something. This was the heaviest I have ever been and I did loose 60 pounds after. Carrying twins was no joke, my delivery weight was 314. My pregnancies were all full term, I had Kennedi natural without any meds. I did have to have a c-section with the twins but only because they both wouldn't stay head down. After birth my weight went down to 274 and I will admit that it is not as easy to get back down to my pre-pregnancy weight as my life is completely different and more hectic. The weight I am today is my heaviest without being pregnant but I am still healthy.

36 weeks pregnant with my twins

There are many other women like me that has successful and healthy pregnancies and births. This show was so disappointed and only further pushed the stigma that with a heavier size comes health problems. The ending credits gave a very brief update but highlighted that the women lost x amount of pounds. Was that really necessary??? Could they just have an update on mommy and baby??? As a plus size person we have a long way to go to get people to accept our size. Weight loss, weight gain, and maintaining a certain should be at the discretion of the one individual not other peoples opinions. I am all for a healthy life style but you have to make the right decisions for yourself. Maybe we will see a plus size woman on this show that doesn't bring up weight as an issue...I'll wait....