Tuesday, July 30, 2013

Does Adding Fat to a Word Make You Feel Better???

Fatshion, Fatkini, and any other word some in the plus size community has added fat to....drives me crazy. I understand why people do it though. Many feel like they are taking the word fat from being an insult to embracing it and feeling powerful when they say it first. I get it!! But my question is do you really want to be identified as fat.... or do you want to be identified as .... I would rather be identified as Jasmon or a fashionista not Fat Jasmon or Fatshionista. I want to be respected and spoken to without reference to size. I find it a little demeaning to always include fat into a description. Why can't we accept and embrace the term fat and leave it at that.

Taking pride in who you are is a must but when it comes to how you want to be respected is a bigger obstacle I think some don't understand. Calling yourself fat before someone else does will not make you look more powerful. Standing up as the person you are, that will make you powerful. Some will disagree with me and that's fine, but if we truly want to be accepted and treated as equals we must use the regular terminology as our equals. You don't see skinny woman saying skinnykini or Skinny.... , so why do we do it????

For some women it really does make them feel better and for some it is a buffer and way to hide the hurt they feel when being called fat. For the women and teens who hurt or feel sad when they are called fat, it is ok to not embrace this fat trend. You will only be respected how you see fit when you set your own standards. Just because one of your favorite bloggers or celebrities refer to themselves in fat terminology does not mean you have to. I follow a few bloggers that uses that term for a lot of things but I will never follow suit. I know how I want to be represented and respected and will never allow another to take me off the track.

Embrace who you are and who you want to be! If you like using fat in front of everything I say go for it! If you are using it to hide behind your true feeling I say stop and just be you. You are one of a kind and whether your fat or not you are SIZE FABULOUS and words should not define you!!!!

Monday, July 29, 2013

My Asos Haul

I recently won a $100 gift card from the blogger Manfattan for Asos and boy was I excited. I can't shop for myself as much as I would like so to get a gift card for a generous amount of money was a bit of a blessing I feel. I am a newbie to online shopping as I have a hard enough time in a regular store finding clothes to fit my body perfectly. I am getting better though. Finding how sizes run and how they fit will come with time but I love finding out lol. I bought 4 tops and 3 pencil skirts (my new addiction). One of the tops will not be in this post as I have already blogged about in another post. I am addicted to pencil skirts because it hugs you in all the right places and can be dressed up and down in so many ways. But enough of my babbling...all tops and bottoms are from Asos Curves and the Shoe details will be at the bottom of the post.
 
Shoe Deets: Top: JustFab / Middle: ShoeDazzle / Bottom: Target

Sunday, July 28, 2013

Date Night

It has been a long time since we have had a date night. It has been even longer since I have been out period. I don't go out much and it doesn't help that we rarely have a sitter to do so. My mom wanted to give us a night off and we surely wasn't going to turn her offer down. We wanted to go to a club called Lava at the casino but unfortunately we couldn't so we opted for dinner and a late movie. We went to Friday's and I had the Jack Daniel Burger and it was the BOMB. That Jack Daniel's sauce was amazing. The movie we saw was Wolverine and I definitely recommend it. It was a great night and can't wait to do it again, whenever that may be.

 
 
 
Outfit Deets: Blazer: Forever21 / Top: Asos Curve / Jeans: Rainbow / Wedge Booties: Target / Clutch: Cant Remember (Sorry)

Wednesday, July 24, 2013

65 Degrees in July.....The Nerve

Syracuse weather is so crazy. We had a heat wave of 90 degree weather for a week straight, get a little rain and next thing you know you need a jacket in July. On a positive note I wore a top from Asos Curve I recently bought yyaaayyy for me lol. So even though the weather sucked my fringe top made me smile.


 
Outfit Deets: Fringe Top: Asos Curve / Pants: Ashley Stewart / Camo Flats: Target / Jewelry: Gifted
 
 

Tuesday, July 23, 2013

Its Just Those Rainy Days


 
Woke up to rain this morning so I had to change my outfit. The original plan was to wear a cute pencil skirt and heels, but I refuse to have wet legs and feet so I switched out the skirt for pants and heels for loafers.
 
 
 
Outfit Deets: Peplum Top: Forever21 / Pants: Ashley Stewart / Loafers: Target / Belt: JcPenney / Earrings: H&M / Lipstick: Wet n Wild (Shade 912C)