It All Starts with You

Everything that goes on in your life starts with you. Every change that is made starts with you. Why would you want someone else to make any decisions for you. Think to yourself, what do YOU want to do, say or change about yourself. Then ask yourself what are you waiting for?

Changing the way you think can help build your confidence and improve your self esteem. Having control can make you feel powerful. I know it does for me. I can admit that it may be a little scary to do something out of your normal day to day but changes can't be made without you. I'm still nervous venturing out and creating my brand and business but I know this is what I want and I have to go for it. Even if you fail AT LEAST YOU TRIED. Never allow yourself to say the should've, could've, would'ves.

If you want to change your wardrobe, then do it. Trying out things you've never worn before can actually make you love how beautiful you really are. It can help you appreciate and love your body. I recently started wearing eye make up and I was amazed at how it made me feel. Just remember when buying new clothes to make sure you by clothes that fit and complements your frame.

If Losing weight is what you want to do then do it. The first thing is to make sure your losing for the right reasons. Yes we all love our curves but we have to remember to be healthy. I'm on a weight loss journey as well so I cant relate to all of you. Remember to take it easy nothing happens over night.

I just want all of you to start doing everything you are scared to do. Don't let anyone stop you from your dreams because of you size, including yourself. Sometimes people can stand in their own way and that's what we need to overcome. Again I cant say it enough that nothing will change in your life without you making and committing to those changes.

Look of the Week

 

Ok I have an addiction I want to admit to..........I am addicted to the peplum trend LOL. I have a few peplum tops and I definitely want more. The look this week is very versatile. It can be worn to work then worn to happy hour. I am in love with the oxblood color and thought this top can be matched with anything from pants to a skirt. I also chose a cap toe (or pointy toe) flat. The cap toe gives a more professional look for the work place. I don't wear heels in the office everyday but I still want to wear a professional shoe. These shoes will give you just that. I Hope you love this look as much as I do.

 

Angle Pocket Pant from JCPenneys at $27.00

Oxblood Polkadot Pepleum Top from Asos Curves at $33.91

Cap Toe Flats from Target at $29.99

Your Pretty for a Big Girl

I cringe when I hear people say that to themselves and others. Is it a rare find to see a pretty big girl???? Do we not exist???? There are just as many unattractive skinny people just like bigger people. Just because you carry a bigger frame does not automatically make you less attractive. I wish people would do away this phrase.

Ladies we can not accept every form of flattery. Saying that is just a back handed complement. He called you pretty but he also just called you fat. It's not cute and if someone ever said it to me he would never get the time of day. Your beauty should not be based off your size and you can not accept anything less.

If he is truly into you (besides sex) he will not reference your size to your beauty. We have to learn that all attention is not always good attention. Just because he says your cute doesn't mean a thing if he is throwing shade on your size. When you love yourself and your body you will learn to separate the two. Stand up for what you deserve and never settle just to feel the love you are longing for.

You are strong, you are worth it, you are amazing and YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL. Not beautiful for a big girl but beautiful because you are you.

Wellness Check

It has been a very long time since I have done a wellness check with you guys. I didn't want to bore you doing them every week or every other week. I am hoping you are all still on your journey to a healthier life. I was in a rut for a while but about a couple of weeks ago I got the motivation I have been looking for. My eating has been awesome as well as my exercising.

My Eating
I was looking for any type of motivation to get me back to eating clean like I did a couple years ago and I found that motivation in a juicer. I watched a movie called "Fat, Sick, and Nearly Dead". It was about an over weight man that did a 60 day juice fast to regain his health back. I was so inspired by his story I went out and bought a juicer. I went back and forth about whether to do a fast or not and I decided I wouldn't be able to do a fast based on my hectic schedule. I decided that I will however make one juice a day at least five days a week. Juicing has completely changed my eating for the better. I barely have any cravings for processed foods and I have been able to focus on healthy over what taste good. Although I eat clean mostly I do allow myself to have certain things like bagels, I love bagels LOL, without me ending up craving other processed foods. I am so amazed but ecstatic about it.

My Exercise
OMG I hate working out LOL. I am not a big fitness fanatic and was struggling to find some type of motivation. Even though I do a lot of running around all day I still want to get a little workout in. After doing really good with my eating I knew working out will make my results that much better. I decided to do two March challenges. One is a squat challenge and the other it a strength training challenge. So far I can barely walk LOL but I am doing very well. I never feel like doing it but it only takes about a half hour to do and I feel so good after it's done. I'm starting off slow so I don't plan to add anything else in for exercise this month.

Overall
I am doing great. I am happy to be out my rut and going strong. Between eating mostly clean and a bit of exercise I am losing about a pound or two almost everyday. I am beyond amazed by that but I am happy to be back on track. My energy is up, I am in better moods and I am looking towards my goal to get back into my pre-twin pregnancy pants.

I hope your still on track to your goal and if you are in a rut don't worry you will get through it. If I could do it then you can too. You are strong so never doubt yourself. I am here if you have any questions about healthy eating, juicing or my exercise routines.

What The Hell Does Think Like a Skinny Person Mean????

So I was waking up out my sleep and on my TV (yes I sleep with my TV on) was an infomercial about a new weight loss gimmick. Since my eyes were still closed I paid close attention to what the man was saying and it annoyed the hell out of me. He kept saying that his weight loss method will help you think like a skinny person.

What the hell does think like a skinny person mean. He didn't focus on weight loss for health or body image. His main goal seemed to be to make people believe you have to think like a skinny person to lose weight. BUT not all skinny people are healthy, not all skinny people eat healthy.....NOT ALL SKINNY PEOPLE ARE THE PICTURE OF WEIGHT LOSS, HEALTH AND HAPPINESS.

It pisses me off that some people are still trying to push the notion that skinny means healthy and over weight means death. Just because someone has a larger frame does not mean they are unhealthy. I am overweight but I also live a healthy lifestyle. I know that even if I do lose a lot of weight I will still have a full figured frame. Ladies big or small we must not fall into the mindset that skinny mean healthy and happy because it doesn't.

Loving yourself and your body will make you happy and living a healthy lifestyle will make you healthy. People speak on what they don't know out of ignorance. Educate yourself on what decision you want to make about your body and embrace it. You are worth far more than your weight.