They Sell Plus Size but Not in The Store

I love to shop and I know many of you do too. One thing I know we all hate is that most stores only carry small sizes in the store and refer you to their online site to buy plus sizes. How annoying is that. I remember times when I was a teenager shopping with my friends and I usually had to watch them buy things. Not because I didn't have money but because they didn't carry my size. It was tough back then and most times I would avoid shopping with my friends.

I don't understand why stores who has a plus size line won't put it in their store. They will get so much more traffic and sales. I personally don't like to shop online unless its shoes or accessories. I like to try on clothes before I buy. Having the right fit is very important to me and I don't want to deal with returning things. Some stores have moved in their plus size line like Forever21, but that's not enough.

I find it hurtful to plus size women to make us go online to buy your product. We are good enough to spend our money on your things but not good enough to buy it in the store. Do they feel we will scare smaller size women away if we shop there too???? I doubt we will every get the answer but we must demand more of clothing stores. I refuse to only shop online for my clothes. The more we let the owners know how we feel the closer we can get to all plus size lines being in the stores.

Peace & Love

Look of The Week

 

I love days when I don't have to be worried about being dolled up. The winter is the best time to take advantage of smaller heels and comfier clothes. That doesn't mean you don't continue to look fierce. You can always be fierce and sexy but toned down. Especially on these cold winter days its good to dress down a bit but stay cute. How are you feeling about this look????

 

Cowl Neck Pullover Sweater from Avenue at $19.96

Double-Buttoned Slim Jeans from Old Navy at $14.97

Gore Heeled Bootie from Dots at $13.00

Sex and Your Body

I am very confident with my body, but when it's time to get down with the get down I find myself sometimes a little insecure about my body (like many of you). Do I let that get in the way of love...absolutely not. I find that the men I have dated embraces my body and makes me feel beyond comfortable. I know for some women it is very hard to get completely naked especially in front of a man. I want to share some do's and dont's when it comes to being intimate so you can be more comfortable having sexy time as I call it lol.

Do's

1. BE CONFIDENT even if your not or fake it till you make it lol. Nothing is more sexier than a confident woman.
2. Get completely naked. No one wants to have the hassle of readjusting your clothes when your in the zone.
3. Try new things and positions. Explore new things to keep your love life hot and spicy.
4. Its ok to laugh at yourself or at things that may happen.
5. HAVE FUN. Sex can be very fun and enjoyable if you allow it to be.

Dont's

1. DO NOT talk about how you hate your body. It will totally kill the mood and put your insecurities on full blast.
2. Don't do anything you are uncomfortable doing. It can end in a bad night if you are doing things that make you uncomfortable.
3. Don't make him do all the work. You both should put in equal effort to make the night special.
4. Don't hide your body. Don't be afraid for him to see all your curves, rolls, cellulite and etc. If he is with you he most likely doesn't care about your rolls.
5. DON'T PUSH HIM AWAY. Don't allow your insecurities to push him away. You deserve to be loved so embrace it.

Plus Size Women and Social Internet Sites

There has been many things coming out recently about the dangers of online dating and other internet scams. The MTV show "Catfish" has became one of MTV's best rated shows. I can remember when sites like "MySpace" and "Facebook" first came out. Back then you didn't have to worry so much about people deceiving you for their gain. Now it is VERY dangerous at times to connect with someone you don't know from the internet. I see a lot of things going on with men singling out plus size women for personal gain and plus size women lying about who they are to get attention from men.

I think men and women who lie are insecure, selfish and down right trifling for this. Women who fall victim to the lies men tell need to wise up. There are always red flags that goes up but these women tend to ignore them because they want to make themselves believe that man is genuine. Sorry ladies but you have to be very cautious and smart if you want to find love online. Now there is nothing wrong with finding love online and it can have the same out come as meeting someone in person but when online the person can lie a bit more.

Plus size women need to embrace who they are when they want to meet people online. You can't hold onto a lie about what you look like if you really want to meet and be with this person. That man is liking or loving the picture of who you are and if the picture isn't you, your setting yourself up to be hurt. You have to be yourself because you want that man to fall in love with you and not someone else. Also, you DO NOT have to post pictures or your breast, butt, be in lingerie or any other type of extreme thing to get attention from men. There are men who prefer to date plus size women and they will come to you. All you have to flaunt is your confidence, that is more sexy than your breast in every photo.

Ladies be who you are and don't fall for the lies. You will find true love whether its from the internet or in person.

Peace & Love

Friday From Me to You

I'm hoping that all of you are feeling beautiful today. I know everyday we all go through different things and our struggles can be different, but I am here for you. I think to myself all the time about how I hope I am at least helping one person get through their body image troubles. My mission is to help as many women and teens girls as I can to build their confidence and self esteem.

You are worth far more than your weight. You are worth more than the clothes you wear or the friends you have. You deserve to be loved and respected. I find a lot of women are afraid to stand up for what they believe and not take any crap from anyone. Some are afraid that they will lose friends or their significant other if they stick to certain standards.

Well I'm here to say if your friends or significant other cant respect your wishes then they were not true to your relationship. You don't always have to agree on everything. What you may see as ok they may think other wise and that is ok. The most important part is that you can look beyond your differences. One thing I also want women to understand is that you do not have to lower your standards to be in a relationship. A man will love you flaws and all and give you the respect you deserve but you have to demand it.

Love yourself ladies. No one will love you like you love yourself.

Peace & Love