Monday, July 28, 2014

Are You Sabotaging Your Relationships?????

Being single I am excited to go on a new journey of dating and hopefully finding "The One". This got me thinking about a time when I was so worried if a guy would like me even though I'm fat. What would I have to change or do to make him like me? Will I have to do something I don't want to do to keep him? and so on. Through my years of finding myself I can say I have grown in regards to what I will accept in a mate and what I will do to please him without losing myself in the process.

I think it gets easier to date when you build confidence. Being confident with who you are will lead to how you will act in the dating world. Low self-esteem and confidence usually will land you in a unhappy relationship or alone. If you do things like avoiding social settings, introducing yourself to new people, dressing for the occasion or even turning men away that are interested, these are signs you need to work on your confidence and self-esteem and goes way beyond being shy.

Men can also see a lack of confidence in a woman. I hear men saying there's nothing sexier than the confidence in a woman and when its lacking it's definitely a turn off. Why get in your own way when finding love? If you are confident in yourself the men will be confident in you too. So what you are fat, who cares??????? If a man truly loves you, he will accept you for you and wouldn't want you to compromise who you are as a woman to make him happy. Embrace your body, be you and be fabulous.

It took me years to build the confidence I have and there isn't anything or anyone that can break it. I have not met a man that didn't love how confident I was. My motto is "I can get in line with the best of them." Being over weight has no limitations. I was the largest one in my dance group back in college but my weight never stopped me from learning and performing almost every dance.

Don't get in your way of finding love. How can a man love you if you don't love yourself. Confidence is key. It may take time but just know with confidence and a high self-esteem comes with a happier you.

Friday, July 25, 2014

20 Ways to Love Your Body

1. Think of your body as the vehicle to your dreams. Honor it. Respect it. Fuel it.

2. Create a list of all the things your body lets you do. Read it and add to it often.



3. Become aware of what your body can do each day. Remember it is the instrument of your life, not just an ornament.



4. Create a list of people you admire: people who have contributed to your life, your community, or the world. Consider whether their appearance was important to their success and accomplishments.



5. Walk with your head held high, supported by pride and confidence in yourself as a person.



6. Don’t let your weight or shape keep you from activities that you enjoy.



7. Wear comfortable clothes that you like, that express your personal style, and that feel good to your
body.


8. Count your blessings, not your blemishes.



9. Think about all the things you could accomplish with the time and energy you currently spend
worrying about your body and appearance. Try one!


10. Be your body’s friend and supporter, not its enemy.



11. Consider this: your skin replaces itself once a month, your stomach lining every five days, your liver every six weeks, and your skeleton every three months. Your body is extraordinary--begin to respect and appreciate it.



12. Every morning when you wake up, thank your body for resting and rejuvenating itself so you can
enjoy the day.


13. Every evening when you go to bed, tell your body how much you appreciate what it has allowed you to do throughout the day.



14. Find a method of exercise that you enjoy and do it regularly. Don’t exercise to lose weight or to fight your body. Do it to make your body healthy and strong and because it makes you feel good. Exercise for the Three F’s: Fun, Fitness, and Friendship.



15. Think back to a time in your life when you felt good about your body. Tell yourself you can feel like that again, even in this body at this age.



16. Keep a list of 10 positive things about yourself--without mentioning your appearance. Add to it!



17. Put a sign on each of your mirrors saying, “I’m beautiful inside and out.”



18. Choose to find the beauty in the world and in yourself.



19. Start saying to yourself, “Life is too short to waste my time hating my body this way.”



20. Eat when you are hungry. Rest when you are tired. Surround yourself with people that remind you of your inner strength and beauty.

Don’t Weigh Your Self-Esteem. It’s What’s Inside That Counts!

Compiled by Margo Maine, Ph.D.

Friday, July 18, 2014

Sit Those Puppies Up


I am not talking about actual puppies!!!! 8 out of 10 women are wearing the wrong size bra...crazy right!!! It is very common for women to think they are a certain size when they are not. Usually as long as it buckles you may think it fit. I recommend you get bra fittings at least one a year, especially if you have just had a child. If you are not able to get a fitting anytime soon, there are a lot of key factors that lets you know your bra is too small.

1. You have spillage. Your breast should not spill out of your bra in any area unless you bought a massive push up bra.

2. Your straps dig into your shoulders. That is a sign your breast is to large and heavy for that bra.

3. The band (sides) of your bra rolls up. If that happens your band is not long enough to properly fit your body.

4. The back rides up (looks like an arch). Again your band is not long enough to properly fit around your body.

5. Your breast still sag with a bra on. Your breast should always sit up (perky like). If they still sag you have on the wrong bra.

6. You have a lot of room in your bra. Gaps are a sign that your bra cup size is too big.

The best way to find out your correct bra size is to go to a lingerie store and have them measure it for you. You can also look at the chart below to help you figure out your bra size.

Courtesy of Platex

 
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